Guys and girls, we are all thinking about going through things, and making changes. I know I sure as hell am, we all want to go through it. Slowly I’m getting more comfortable with saying I want to make changes in my health, personal finance, career, and also live and create a great lifestyle for myself, and my girl.
This is a blog where I give you myself, just a little bit, so that you can see we’re all having a human experience. As a therapist, it’s just my job and purpose to guide you through that experience as you make the changes you want to make. That’s why I continue to drill my fundamentals to my ideal clients.
If you are a man, who wants to improve his marriage, gain control of his anger, and be a better husband and father, I’m always going to repeat my fundamentals, come home, greet your wife, “Hey baby, How was your day.” Of course do it in your own voice, your own way, the way that’s you.
That’s also deciding when and where. When I get home (where), everyday after work (when), I am greeting my wife (deciding what to do), right it’s not a date, but you get the point. These are how good habits are formed, and changes become habits. Slowly your wife feels it, and feels your love. It takes time, time for your wife to feel the change, time for you to keep repeating it, but I promise you men, you can do it. If you are interested in my service for men who want a better relationship, click here.
What if you’re single and dating, it still applies to you, remember guys, a date is a day, time, and place. When you ask that girl out, call her up (why, that’s manly, screw that texting bs). Hey Jess, I was thinking about ya, how you’re doing…Great, I’d love to see you again, when are you free.” Then shut up, that’s right just shut up and see what she says.
More importantly, it's deciding when and where, and what exactly you are going to do. Once you decide when, where and what, the habit and good habit becomes initiated, engrained, and even more natural. Even after starting this blog, maybe five, ten people read it today. Great, if they get something for it even better. But really this is a habit for me, a good one I am trying to do everyday, to grow this business, it’s my first essential fundamental of this business.
For this blog, when and where was I making a conscious effort to make sure I’m blogging at 7am before work, why? Because that’s the time I’ve blocked out for it, that’s my habit. Now look! It's Saturday morning on the weekend, at 9:30am, and I’m still doing it. Why? Because for the last two weeks it has become a habit, and now it’s easier. Remember guys and girls, good habits, lead to good changes. Small changes lead to bigger changes, and results, which lead to big wins.
For my couples out there, decide when and where you want to talk about something that is pressing, or bothering you guys. Decide when, where and what to talk about, that’s right a day, time, and place to. Well Wednesday at 10pm, this way we know absolutely by 10pm, the kids are in bed.
Once again don’t be a robot, block out that 10pm on Wednesday night to talk about money to see if you are going to send your child to that sleepaway camp or not, or you want to talk about your mother-in-law coming. Also don’t be that robot, if it’s 9:45pm, Wednesday and the kids are in bed, you don't have to wait until 10 lol.
One of the things I totally learned from it is don't be a robot, apply principles, not exact text. Be yourself with the principles, thoughts, habits, and changes you are trying to make.
So guys, decide the when and the where, to do the things you gotta do, the things that are pressing, then the next day, decide it again, then decide it again, before you know it, you’ll be blogging lol (well maybe not, but you see my point).
Guys I’m a therapist, who absolutely loves working with people to overcome challenges, especially if that challenge is a marriage, relationship, or navigating the world of single and dating. So guy’s click on that contact me tab above (or here), to reach out for a free call.
If you’d really check out my home page, you can read more about my services page.
So guys decide that change you want to start, that little change, and then just decide the when and the where.
