Be your own Agent of Change: Dating, Relationships, and Life

Be the agent of change for yourself: 

That’s right folks, this is a hard one, but this is a good one. The truth or likelihood is, if you are reading this, you either happen to just know or like me, are curious as to why the hell is Joey writing these self improvement and dating and relationship blogs, or you really want to change. 

The cool thing about being a therapist is I get to be that agent of change for you, or for the people in my room. Let’s keep it real, ( I know, I know I say it all the time but it’s true). 

Something about what you searched, or what you are telling yourself is why you are here reading this blog. I know why I’m here typing this blog, it's for discipline, and it truly is to figure out how I want to be exactly the agent of change for the people I work with…

Whether it is changing your dating life to be more successful, improving your relationship with your girl, or significant other, or if you are a couple or family who truly wants to change the dynamic of your family for the better. 

I’ve got to change my script, that I can do this, but more importantly, you’re reading this, I not just have to change your script, I have to hold you accountable, create the plan, manage emotions, frustrations, and actions that either add up to the change or don’t. 

In the world of dating and relationships, you are either trying to make your dating life better, or you are trying to feel better and do better by your girl, or wife. If you are married, you are truly trying to understand each other, and figure it out, and kind of go back to the old days, the old days of love, and romance, yes even if you have kids, a home, a car, and life and in-laws that you have to navigate. 

As a therapist, I get to be that agent of change, it’s ok to let it out, but then you gotta figure it out. So what is it that made you feel out that referral form, read this blog, click on this search button. 

What exactly are you trying to change and make better, I know exactly what I am, and I own that everyday, more importantly you’re the reader, what do you want to change? Why do you want to change it?

Do you wanna be less angry with your wife?

Do you want to be able to go out and just tell a girl, hey you’re cute, and walk away indifferent to whatever happens?

Do you want to feel secure in your relationship, that no matter what I know that’s my girl, I just wanna do a little bit better. 

Do you want to stop arguing and bickering over any little thing, and just go back to the marriage and relationship you knew?

What about in other areas of your life?

Do you want to look like the Rock? Do you want to look like a bikini model?

Do you want to pay off that credit card bill? Save for that vacation?

Do you want to start that business?

Do you want to go on that dream vacation?

Do you want to get over that person, you know treated you like crap?

Do you want to get over that heartbreak, hurt, disappointment?

Ask yourself one of these questions, and just go what do I want six months from now?

I know for sure if my girl is reading this, I wanna be a small again in t shirt size, why? Because nobody likes a fat therapist. 

Ask yourself, what do you want to be different six months from now? Go ahead let it roll off the tongue?

Single and Dating: I wanna be able to go up to that girl I think is cute, say hello, and be indifferent to whatever the outcome is?

SIngle and Dating: I wanna be able to go on that second, or third date, with that girl I really liked. 

Would you do whatever you had to do, to make those changes six months from now. You could completely do those things?

I bet the answer is hell yes!

Relationship/Married Would you want your wife to be the sweet loving woman she used to be? 

If the answer is, that would be awesome, then great, what’s stopping you (the keyword being you), from doing the little things, like managing emotions, remaining calm, and being cool and caring when you come home to get your marriage turned around. 

Wanna pay off that credit card Bill six months from now? Sweet, go do it, and guess what, I bet if you really buckled down, you might be able to do it three months from now.

So ask yourself, What would you absolutely change six months from now? Here’s the good news, you can do it, it’s usually easy, its usually  simple actions, some managed emotions, and a little discipline that truly go a long way. 

So guy’s if you are single and dating and want to read more about that service click here. 

Men, if you are married and want to work on issues like anger with your wife, or arguing, or even feel a little insecure in that marriage or relationship click here. 

And couples and families, if you really want to work on a change together awesome. 

My rates are located at my rates page. 

You can click on that contact me tab and send me an email to schedule a free consultation, just a chance to sit down (virtually), and tell me your story. 

I’ll reply back within one business day to your email and set up a day and time to talk. 

So guy’s what’s your story?