Why am I so caught up in one girl in dating?

It’s because you aren’t going for it. Going for what you want simply means, knowing exactly what you want, and making a decision to do it, in a quick, decisive manner.

After all, that is masculinity; going for what you want, and getting right to the point.

The power in going for it allows those emotions of doubt and fear to be reduced, even just a little. 

First a personal example:

This past week was a rough one for a day or two, as my girl had been a little more quiet than usual. My emotions were all over the place for about 24 to 36 hours….

I was left wondering…and down the rabbit hole. While I was waiting for her to reach out, I was definitely feeling an emotional wave, however…

What I learned after coming out of it, is that what I really wanted was just to make plans for this weekend (after all it was our anniversary). 

Those emotions I was experiencing were really just doubts. However, if I went for what I really wanted, I would have not reacted to the silence, and said OK…

She needs some time and space. I know what I want, I will just go for it at said time (insert day and time to call and say, “Hey I wanna see you…”

Giving a girl time and space, and plenty of it was something I mastered reading Corey Wayne’s book 3% Man. I highly recommend this book

How do your emotions flair up in dating life?

Maybe you’re dating this girl you really like, and even had a great date with her the other night. You’re left wondering when she will reach out, or if you will need to this week to make a date. 

Very simple: What do you want? To make a date with that girl you like. 

Next: Decide when you are going to do it: I’m going to call her Wednesday at 8

Next: What do you want? Hey, I was just thinking about you, what are you up to?

Next: Sounds awesome, you know I’d love to see you this week, when are you free?

The best part about even typing is how easy it comes off my fingers, and if I can type it, you can say it!. 

So What’s the point?

You might be saying, Joe, this is common sense to go for what you want, especially in dating. And you’re right it totally is.

My point really being is when we know what we want, the next thing to do is to decide when to do it. 

Once we decide what we want, and when we're gonna do it, it really takes that emotional thermometer, and lowers it, so that we are in control.

I know I want to see that girl, I’ll call her (insert blank day and time). That allows us to enjoy life, and focus on the important stuff.  Why? Because we are now problem solving our emotions.

How to get better and apply this to your dating life.

Next time, you find yourself worrying about the next date, or time a girl will reach out, or anything emotional, say to yourself…

What do you want, and decide when to go for it, and just see if it lowers those emotions. 

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