Behavior Change? What’s the First Step

Keeping it real

Let’s keep it real, I could write this blog about being 32 years old, single and 330 pounds, especially since being single was my choice, but no, that would be a BS blog. You see this blog is a service, it’s a challenge, it's a goal , its accountability for me, and a service for the person reading it.

It means I have to be a leader, put myself out there, a little bit, so I can encourage you to put yourself out there, and be a little vulnerable in the room with me, that’s how you get changes. If you can keep it real with me, you can keep it real with yourself. 

What emotions are playing on you? Where are they playing?

What’s that emotion that is playing on you? What’s that emotion that is pulling at those strings? Do you want to get in better shape? Save for an awesome vacation or get ahead or feel better financially? Is it that you want to really start a business or be really hammering down and getting right with your professional life? Or is it like when I first started you wanted to fix your personal life, meaning you’re dating life. 

These my friends are the four pillars of mental health, or as I say life, or as I like to really say, the four burners on the stove top, that add up to your life. Are you in shape, or getting there, are you saving some money, and not worried about money, are you starting a business or getting navigating a crappy situation at work, or are you frustrated in hell you’re dating and/or relationship life. 

It’s funny how success in one area means we want to oh crap this is awesome, now I really want to address that other area of my life, like suddenly when you are dating an awesome girl (love you baby), you go gee, I really want to be able to save for that awesome vacation or getaway with my girl, I really want to look the best I can, not just lose a lot of weight and have my weight yo-yo. 

You see that’s a little bit of my story, and my challenges on my stove-top, more importantly you’re the reader so I wanna hear about your stove-top?

What’s your behavior change and Why do you want it?

Do you want to lose weight because you’re tired of your clothes not fitting?

Do you want to stop gambling and betting because you know you’re never going to truly win and get ahead?

Do you want to be less angry with your wife, because you want your marriage to be fun, loving and awesome again

Do you want to be a better man to your girl, because you know currently how you’re showing up with anger, or jealousy, or arguing, just isn’t how you want your relationship to be?

Do you want to truly figure out what you want to do in life? And the steps you have to do to it? 

Problems, are a sign of life…You just have to navigate it

You see guys, problems are a sign of life, that’s a good thing, that’s why I love working with adult men, adult ladies, and couples, because they have life, they have problems, they just want to figure it out, and do a little better.

Maybe you want that behavior change to be less angry with your wife, and calm around her, because you really love your life, and know you want to do better (one my favorite success stories as a therapist)

Maybe you know you don’t want to argue with your girl, and you know deep down she loves you, and know that the way you’re showing up for her at times isn’t cool and just want to do better. 

Maybe you know what you are going through at work, just isn’t cool, it’s not what it used to be, and just want to go in a different direction.

Maybe you know deep down you wanna have a truly awesome dating life? And I just want to figure out how to achieve it, whether it’s keeping those second and third dates into second and third months of dating, or just seeing that cute girl and saying, “You’re cute, what’s your name.”

Living in Abundance Means addressing all the areas, and also moving them forward, just a little bit, but everyday.

To me this is living in abundance, this is living with choice, and also with all of the burners on the stove top cooking at the right temperature. Look it’s not easy to get it there, but it doesn’t have to be hard to start. Just do the littlest littlest thing to start that change: 

What’s the firs step that rolls off you’re tongue?

1. Want to drink a little less? Make that first drink a seltzer

2. Want to be less angry at your wife? Smile and say hey babe, how was your day when you walk in

3. Is your girl going out? Hey babe, have fun tonight. 

4. Want to approach that girl, just look at her and smile, for a few seconds right at her. 

5. Want to focus on your health, go to the gym for 20 minutes, and it it’s not that bad, stay lol. 

6. Want to work on your marriage with your partner? Let’s just talk about if we should go to marriage counseling. 

These are the smallest changes that roll off my tongue, as I think about these things both personally and professionally. 

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