Boundaries in Dating: What they look like and how they make your dating life better.

Boundaries: What is it really? And how do we apply them in our personal and professional lives: 

Boundaries move our life forward, in all areas.

Boundaries, they help move our life forward, or they help move our life back, whether it is in the world of health, personal finance, your career, or your personal lives. We have to have them, whether it’s share will power and discipline or just mindfullness, we have to know what they are and why they exist for us. 

First a little bit of my story

This is a blog, a service, and a business about going first, keeping it real, giving a little piece of my story, so I can hear your story, and know exactly how to help you, after all I am a therapist. “The Therapist (thanks baby, love ya).”

One of my early boundaries when I re-invented how I was going to date, was to only check the dating apps once per day, message, swipe and that was it. Oh yeah and it was at 5am, right when I woke up, right before the gym. 

How did creating this boundary help my emotions? Well it meant, my limited actions being single, made me invest less emotionally, it was just a message, a habit, a discipline. It was a deliberate action, designed to keep my emotions behind dating in check and at the appropriate temperature. 

Guys, you can read about my single and dating service here, for those who are single and in the dating world. 

I love applying what I have learned in self-help, dating and my professional experience as a therapist to help you navigate the dating world. Click here to read about it. 

Guys as a therapist, I do not at all claim to be like some Mystery, Todd V, or Corey Wayne (although Corey’s work was a big influence on me), I’m a therapist, who figured out after years of struggling how to navigate the dating world after years of failure. 

Boundaries help limit emotions: The one’s that cause the bad actions.

Guys, we all have emotions that lead us to the google search that may have lead you to this little blog post, my job as a therapist, is to identify those emotions, lower the temperature and even change them if we can, so we can have decisive, deliberate and great and attractive behavior and actions in the dating world, like waiting a few days to call the girl in between dates, and building up that courage (if you need it built up, to call and not text). 

Sometimes we need a boundary to actually decide this is the moment we are going to take action and move our lives, forward, like going out, saying hi to girls, saying, “Hey, You’re cute what’s your name,?’’ even if it's a small one, fifteen minutes, or one place and one girl. That is totally a boundary in a good way, I have to do this action (thing), in this window, (place), with one person (a girl, people). People, places, things, are a huge therapy tool I love using as a boundary and action. 

Guys if you are single and in the dating world, maybe you’re frustrated that after a few good dates, the girl starts to lose interest, Maybe you’re someone who needs help and a little boost with opening that big hole in your face to a girl you think is cute (hopefully that came off as joking, especially since I know I hate it also). Maybe you want to live a great life and want to work through a challenge with me. 

If any of these hit home, awesome, I’d love to hear your story. 

You can send me an email here with your name, number, and your availability, and I’ll give you a call back within one business day, to schedule a free consultation. 

Yes, that’s right, you get to tell me your story for free and decide if you want to work with me from there.