What you don’t want to do…Usually moves your life forward?

What does that really mean?

Well, let's do a little exercise (no pun intended here). I want everyone to write down a goal they have, the first thing that comes to mind. Come on. I’ll do it with you. My goal is to be 175 pounds, now write down why? Because I know I would look amazing if I was. 

Also, I love buying clothes when I am in great shape, it’s a great feeling!

So, my story here is I’m usually at the gym six to seven days a week, and yes my diet can totally use more discipline, especially at night by my girl’s house, but I’m going to table that for now (also no pun intended). 

What would really move that forward is an extra 30 minutes of cardio, after work every night, especially Monday to Thursday when I work my second job. 

Why would that specifically move my life forward, because that’s the extra work! In therapy, dating, relationships, and goal setting, we know what we want, why we want it, we just got to figure out the how. The how is how we get there, and the plans we make to do that how and move our life forward. 

How do you want to move your life forward

If you want to save for that dream or awesome vacation, you know what would really move it forward, automatically saving money to put in your savings account, so six months or a year later,  it's just a simple transaction, with the advances and cost paid for from you to yourself, way in advance. 

If you’re thinking about starting a new job, or your own business, you know what would really move your life forward, sitting down and buying that course of someone you know who is good at what they do already (thanks Marie! She's a therapist who showed me the importance of blogging, and now…I kind of like it. 

Want to move your dating life forward?

If you really want to move your dating life forward, you know what it really would do, just the habit of being able to go up to a girl you think is cute, and say, “Hey you’re cute, what’s your name?”

Very simply guys, just knowing that you can do it, means you’ll do it, of course not any girl or every girl is going to say yes to a number or date, but just knowing you can do it, that’s the option you are giving yourself. 

Personally, my expertise is after those first few dates, keeping them interested after the first one or two dates. Sure I can work on approaching girls (therapeutically), but it’s in the dating component I do my best work in. So, men if you are single and dating, click here to read about my service. 

Married…Need to work on something with your husband?

What if you're a woman reading this, and feel frustrated in your marriage, about your husband, or just something you need to discuss with him. Hey Joe, I’d really love to talk about where we should take Johnny to school, or talk about some of our expenses, so we don’t so far behind, do you think we can make some time this week to talk?

Girls, let your husband say no, blow you off, or be rude, if they do, that’s not good, but if they look at you smile, and sure, that’s a good idea, that’s a good start. 

How do we move it forward, often times we really do know how exactly, or the next step to move that goal forward, we just avoid it, or are a little bit uncomfortable? How do we get past it, simple, day, time and place to do it.

Example: Today at 2pm, I’m calling Bank of America, because I’m tired of the high interest on this credit card, and I’m not stopping until it’s lowered. 

Set Aside the Time, Get Intentional: Day, Time, and even place

Set aside the time, even day or place you have to do that thing to move your life forward, it keeps you accountable, action oriented, driven and focused on it. Then slowly the things you do or have to become habits, good habits. 

Like going to the gym everyday, I don’t say like a robot, I must go at 6am, no I just do it, and sometimes I’m there a little early, or a little later, but now it’s a habit. 

Just like this blog, I got intentional about it, I had no idea about blogging, was shy, insecure, and took me forever to sit down and do it. Thirty days later, it’s just a habit I do before work, I go to the gym, hop in the shower, get to work early, and blog. 

So, guys, here’s how we're going to move it forward. 

Write down what you have to do, and the day and time to do it, just do it, today!. 

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As a therapist, I’m all about self-help, motivation, and keeping yourself accountable, especially in the world of self-improvement, dating, and relationships, click here for my home page to read more about my services. 

If you want to ask me a question, simply click here to email me anything, I’ll get back to you at no charge.

And if you really want me to work with you one on one, click here for my contact me page, send me an email with some days and times you are available and contact info, I’d love to hear your story, and how exactly we can move your life forward.