Dating? Married? Don’t Avoid, it only makes it worse

Don’t Avoid it only makes it worse

I’m typing this blog today because I have to deal with something, or several things, nothing bad, just life. But it got me thinking, how can I take this human experience that we all deal with everyday, and put it in our world of dating and relationships. 

As usual, I like to touch on both populations, those who are single and dating, and those in relationships, whether that relationship is marriage, or a long term one. 

If you are single and dating, holy cow you can probably avoid eight different things, like saying hello to that girl you think is really cute…guy’s keep it real who haven't avoided that. 

But how do you work past that?

Well you call it out, either there, almost like a little quiet voice, (dude you are avoiding, go), or maybe after, gee I avoided that really cute girl that sucked and I don’t want that to happen next time. 

Either way keep it real with yourself, what are you avoiding? 

Does it suck to avoid it?

Is it only getting worse, the answers to all those questions are probably yes. 

I always like to end a blurb with one or two actionable tips, my favorite line when I was single was, “You’re cute what’s your name,” So simply develop your own you’re cute what’s your name and just go do it. 

With one caveat for you.., if you are that embarrassed, and this is an utter disaster (very likely it won't be btw) you  walk out of the place. 

If I was betting, I’d bet minus 150 (for those who bet), it really won't be that bad, and you won’t need to hit the escape button on the venue. 

What about our married and relationship folks,

what are some of the things we are avoiding?

Are we avoiding listening to our wife, when she has a problem, she wants to tell us about, by immediately responding and replying and not just listening. 

Are we avoiding, really owning our crap, and our role as to why our relationship or marriage is less than and wanting to do better. For example, are you avoiding addressing the fact that you get angry easily and lose your cool. 

Are you avoiding getting help for it?

Are you avoiding apologizing to your wife for losing your cool?

What about your own fears, doubts, and insecurities. Are you avoiding recognizing them?

Are you avoiding wanting to know and think about why you are hurt, stressed, or bugged when your girl goes out with her friends for a night, and you think, “Why isn’t she texting me.”

Guys we avoid all the time,

I’m totally no different, trust me I’m going to go deal with crap today I have to deal with. 

I am simply writing about a human experience as a therapist; on a subject I love and see the world of dating and relationships. 

This is a blog and business to help people like me,

Where I once was, who had to master and figure out all these things. 

So guys (and girls if you are reading this). If you are reading this, there’s a good chance there is something pressing (and not a full court press), on your mind. I’d love to hear it. 

Right now, this is a growing business and service, so the consultation is free, you can click on that contact me tab above to reach out for a free consultation, just tell me your story, if you’d like, absolutely free. 

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