Married? Don’t call your wife a bitch

To keep it a little bit real,

The inspiration comes from someone I know who allowed her man to call her a bitch. It got me thinking, do I need to say something? If I don't, who will?

To be clear, I don’t mean to say something and fight, that’s not cool. I mean dude, you can’t be saying that that's not cool. 

However, he chooses to respond well, that's on him, and if he or anyone else reads this, I don’t care, don’t call your girl a bitch…

But it got me thinking

about how it applies to those who are reading this in the world of relationships and marriages and even dating.

Well simple, if you are married, and you’re calling your wife a bitch to her face, well that’s not cool. Here’s several reasons

1. Two wrongs don’t make a right, if you’re getting a shit sandwich, walk away, say to your wife, hey that’s not cool don’t speak to me like that, let’s talk, but don’t be rude to me. 

2. By doing that you are setting a tone, hey I want to hear why you’re mad and what you have to say, and at the same time, won’t tolerate disrespect. 

3. By calling her a bitch, you have now added oil to the fire, whatever your wife is upset about, plus her emotions, now your emotions, and now name calling, good luck with that argument. 

Then again, what if you are just venting to your guy friends?

Well, one could argue hey, you’re just blowing off steam, sure that is true. 

If you truly want a better marriage

…And want your wife to start showing up a certain way, then you have to show up a certain way, so is really calling her a name like a bitch to your friend going to improve your marriage?

Or are your friends only going to validate your view, and give you a reason not do do anything? I always find it funny, when men say this, but then they go home to their wife. I’m sorry but I come from shit or get off the pot. 

Either do something to make your marriage better, and keep working at it, or I’m sorry to leave, and decide I no longer want to be treated like this, and also feel that way. 

From personal experience:

I remember venting to my friends how unhappy I was in my previous relationship, all that did was validate my experience until I just ended things. 

I didn’t address why I was truly unhappy with her, to her, I just got to the point where I was drained and said No Mas (as Roberto Duran said against Sugar Ray Leonard). 

Men don’t get me wrong if you are on my couch, in my room,

I don’t mind if you have to get it off your chest and say those things, but then what are we doing?

Are we working on our marriage, making little changes (like walking in that door with a smile and just saying hey babe, how was your day), 

Or are we on my couch six months from now, still calling your wife names (that’s not cool). 

As I say in therapy, it’s ok to let it out and empty the gas tank, then you have to figure it out. 

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