How to clear, and overcome the challenges we face.
What it Means
Let’s face it and Let’s keep it real. we all have challenges we have to overcome and go through, almost daily to ensure to grow that masculinity and take us further to our goals.
First a Personal Example:
Memorial Day Weekend: I was at my cousin’s house watching Game 4 of Pacers Knicks. Of course Memorial Day Weekend is the season of summer, where we want to look our best.
At the end of the day I’ll keep it short and simple, I did not want to have one drink, why? I wanted to prove to myself if I really wanted to drink less, I could do it.
Going through it means People, Place, and Thing:
I decided I was going go through it, from 8-11pm, I’d be at my cousin’s and not have one sip of alcohol. People (my family), place (my cousins), thing (alcohol, avoid).
Guess What I did it
Was it a big deal, no not really, I woke up went to the gym the next day and felt really good about it. ,Ironically to keep it real, what made gave me the inspiration for this blog, was drinking a glass of vodka seltzer last night at my girl’s house.
Why did I get the inspiration for this?
Because I woke up going damnit, you know I have been really trying to focus on my diet, and perfecting it, during the week, and that moment of weakness showed up. I said to myself, the reason why it showed up was because I chose not to put myself through it.
This is the important part
Guys, if you are even thinking about the change, and its at the forefront of your mind, then you are on the way of doing it. It’s simply a matter of overcoming it, and executing a plan, even if you find yourself failing over and over again.
So if you’re married what’s the change you want to make?
Maybe you want to just always keep calm when it comes to your wife, no matter how annoyed or aggravated you get.
Hey it’s a small change, but let’s do it. For an hour, for 30 minutes or even for 15 minutes at this time of the day (specific day and time), specific setting (home, living room, bedroom…yes get that specific)….
Boom I am going to remain calm no matter what, just focus on it. You’ll do it.
Maybe, You are a version of myself where I struggled…
Maybe you want desperately to say hello to that girl, but have the hardest time doing it…
Do it, but be specific, day, time, place. Tomorrow when I go out with my friends, for fifteen minutes, I am at least going to look at one girl and smile at them (boom 15 minutes)
If you can do something for 15 minutes…You can do it for a half an hour
The smallest changes, really do start with not just the smallest actions, but the smallest times, so do it guys, 15 minutes, do not lose your cool, being calm at the front of your mind.
15 minutes go to the bar and go out and approach that girl and just say hey, you’re cute (what’s your name). Also while this rolls of my tongue (or fingers (as I’m typing), find the one that rolls of your tongue.
If I had my magic wand…
People would know the exact change they want to make, and here is a step that is important to making it (it takes a little bit of work), but won’t kill me…and at the same time I’ll be happy I did after…
And then Boom…
Go through it, even if it’s for fifteen minutes, pick a day, a time, and a place, and go through it. Ironically one of my mentors Corey Wayne talks about this in how to make a definite date with woman.
Sometimes…You have to make that definite date with yourself….
Whether it is to go to the gym, tally up how much credit card debt you have, or even just to buckle down and put yourself through something you don’t want to go through.
So I’d love to hear….
What’s something you want to put yourself through?
What’s the behavior change you want to make?
Let’s figure it out….
Email me at Joseph.Gherman24@gmail.com
If you’d like I’d also love to sit down and chat to hear about your story and how I can help
