Men’s Self Help and Therapy: How do you want your life to be different Six months from now?

It’s a question I remind myself, or ask myself,

Or at least if someone asks me I have to know the answers to them, and it has to roll right off the tongue. To keep it real, sometimes, my actions and at times inaction don’t add up to it, that’s o,k., I’ll figure it out, just like I’m figuring out this blog and service.

Well, I have to put myself out there first, it means I’d be 180 pounds, or in tip-top shape, truly the best shape of my life, it means my Bank of America Credit would be paid off, and I’d have a second daily habit, that I am doing to move this business and service forward. Then I’d be on awesome vacation with my girl (love ya baby)

That’s a little bit of my story, but what about you, the reader?

What’s your story, what do you want to be different six months from now?

Working on living your truly best life and potential?

Do you want to get in tip top shape?

Do you want to save a certain amount of money to go on an awesome vacation with your wife?

My guys who are married?

Do you want your marriage to feel like a loving relationship and more than just partners or roommates who argue and bicker with little to no romance and love. 

Do you want to not call your wife a bitch either to yourself or to her, and just come home, look at her, smile and give her a big smooch, and have her feel and act toward you the way she used to!

What about those who are single and dating?

Want to be able to see a girl out and just be able to stroll over and say, “Hey you’re cute, what’s your name?”

Want to be able to call a girl up for a date with confidence that you went out with a couple of times and say, “Hey Jessica what’s going on…..I’d love to see you again, when are you free?

Want to feel like you have choice with women, are in control of you’re dating life, and truly in control in all aspects of it.

Here’s where my personal and professional experience comes in

As a therapist, I get to work with you in the room weekly, every other week, or even monthly to make sure these goals are still on track, you still want them badly, and still are doing those little small actions, getting those small wins to build on them. I get to figure out exactly what we have to do, those actions that we put out into the universe to move your life forward. The results will come, it’s the actions we focus on!

Being aligned with your actions and outcomes you want in life, whether it be making your marriage awesome and loving, feeling truly thankful and not needy with your wife or girlfriend, or crafting an awesome great single life for yourself, means also having action you take overcome your limiting beliefs.

Married? Here’s your first good behavior, good action!

It takes thirty days to develop a good habit, or as I like to say good behavior, so for my good behavior for those married men, is when they walk in that door, greet your wife with a smile, kiss no matter what and just say, “Hey baby, how was your day.” 

Do it everyday for thirty days, just being indifferent to knowing hey I’m coming home sweet and kind to my wife, and loving her, and showing her love, and kindness. Be o,k. with the action, the results will come!

If i was just brainstorming here with an imaginary client, the next step might be hopping in that kitchhen to help out with dinner, or taking care of anything she needs help with, with the kids, or a baby, or even just asking, “Hey baby, what do you need help with, tell me.”

Single and Dating: Want to take your first awesome picture on your dating profile

If you are single and dating, take thirty days to go out and take some awesome pictures on your dating profile. A profile means profile, it literally means a sketch of who you are, and pictures and prompts that can make a girl feel some level of attraction to swipe right. 

Go to that rooftop, that catering hall, and take that picture, looking your best! Nice clothes (ironed, steamed, black and white sports coat, dress shirt, and dress pants will do the trick), hold that cocktail, or champagne in your hand, pick a simple background at night, and just smile confidently. Booom you did it, you took your rooftop picture, or as I say picture number one on Hinge. 

Take one picture each month, and see how it goes, test them on photofeeler, edit them on fiverr, and have some fun. 

Check out my article on that rooftop picture by clicking here.

Guys in a relationship: Want to feel better and more confident in it?

Guys, if you are in a relationship, my first good habit for you is when you’re girl has plans, can’t see you, or isn’t that warm or sweet, simply texting them sounds great, have fun tonight. 

Why does it sound great? Because let your girl think or wonder, sounds great? Is everything o.k? And also, you’re just showing your indifference, to whether she comes and goes, and are perfectly o.k with her coming and going, so you can focus on your life, the things you love and have to get done, or the people you love, and hanging out with them.

I know it can be hard, especially when you are in love, but trust me, “Sounds good have fun” or, “Baby that’s awesome have a great time,” is immensely powerful for how you get to show up in your relationship but also as a man. 

So guys, get clear about what you want six months from now, get clear why you want it, and make sure those actions or in-actions are aligned with it, go slow, have patience, and just give yourself permission to repeat that first step over and over again. 

Then you’ll figure out what’s next. 

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So guy’s what’s your story?