Values in your relationship: What do they really mean?

Where do they come from and why?

Today’s blog post is a little bit different, because what I find that is common in the room with clients, is they have these values in their marriage or relationship. 

Sometimes the values and the behavior of your girl clash? So what do you do when they clash?

Ultimately, it comes down to what you want, and why you want it (Thanks Corey, I make no mistake his work taught me a lot and you can check out his website here). 

The reality is sometimes as men, we are insecure in our relationship, or in our dating lives, so we feel our values have been violated, when in reality we are just questioning, will she still choose me?

I see it all the time, when you go out with your friends, you should text me?

Why? Because deep down a text message to you means, ok she still loves me and isn’t getting picked off by another guy. 

Men, mostly men, you’re the one reading the blog, so I’m not going to say, well if she can do better let her. 

While that may be true, and is a mindset you should have, I also want you to think about your behavior and why you do the things you do, think what you think, and ultimately how we really feel. 

Men everyday, let your girl choose you,

Whether she chooses to call you, text you, tell you I love you, let her choose you everyday. 

And on days when she wants to go out with her friends, for a girls night, dress hot, and look hot, say baby, you look hot, keep those creeps away from you (say it with love, kindness, caring and fun).

Why? Another thing I learned even when I mess up, you can apologize, and take the L for a bad behavior or rude thing in a playful and loving way. 

Now listen guys let’s keep it real, if you notice girls night, and girls night out, is three, four, five, six, days a week, that is something to look at, that’s a value shift for her (valuing time with her friends over you), and also you just don’t seem like a priority. 

But guys come on, I know this is something, I had to overcome myself, when you’re girl goes out, “Baby have a great time, I love you.”

She will feel your love, calmness, and even caring attitude, but in a non-controlling, non-guilty and non-confrontational manner. 

Guys I repeat, it’s hard and to keep it real I totally had to overcome it, but I did it, so I guess I can write about it. So guys let your girl choose you every day with love. 

Whether you are extending an invitation for a night out or just waiting to hear from them while they are out with their friends. 

Let your girl choose you, and I promise you, you will really see you probably have a great girl on your hands. 

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