Dating Relationships Marriage: Habits Men Can Build Today for a Better Tomorrow

To keep it real, we all have those things—those pain points that bother us, those hurdles we have to overcome.

For me personally, if you’re reading this on the day it’s published, it’s figuring out how to automate and link my blog posts to my email subscribers (all three of them!).

Over the next month, I’d like to make that process a habit. Why? Because good habits lead to good behaviors, and good behaviors create good results.

Right now, the habit I’m finally normalizing is taking the time to get pen to paper every day for this blog. That’s all I’m focused on. While it’s great that people take the time to read, what truly matters is the consistency—that good behavior, that good habit.

It took discipline to get here (or at least to get on the path), but it’s happening. Just check out those July blogs—I think I posted every day.

Now, back to that original question: What would you absolutely have to do tomorrow to make your life a little better than it is today?
If you’re trying to overcome something, I want you to really answer that.

For me, tomorrow’s step is watching one video on how to grow my subscriber list. What’s cool about answering that question is it forces me to work backwards: what do I need to do today first? Today, that means figuring out how to consistently email this blog out.

This is also called coping ahead—preparing for what’s coming. For example, when I go out with my girl tomorrow, my plan is to have one drink instead of two or three. Why? Because nobody likes a fat therapist.

Use today to move your life forward, and use tomorrow to build on today’s wins, behaviors, and habits.

Look to pay this forward. I love answering this question with my therapist hat on for men—men who are single and dating, in a relationship, or married.

So here’s the plan:

• If you’re single and dating, and shy about approaching women, today you could simply smile at one or two girls you see. Look them in the eye, smile as you walk by—that’s it.
  Tomorrow? Maybe add a simple “hello.” Boom—you’ve already planned a small step forward.
  
  

• If you’re in a relationship, today you might give your girl some space if she seems distant. Tomorrow, plan a date. Call her and say, “Baby, I want to see you. Let’s make some plans. What day works for you?”
  
  

(Important note: The quotes I use in my blog aren’t word-for-word scripts. They’re examples of what rolls off my tongue. The point is to ask yourself: “If I were to make a date with my girl, greet my wife warmly, or confidently tell a woman I think she’s cute—what would I actually say? How would it sound?”)

Guys—plan tomorrow so it moves your life forward a little more than today. With enough planning and follow-through, those plans become behaviors, and those behaviors become habits.

So tomorrow, plan to greet your wife sweetly when you get home. Plan exactly how you want to move forward. That clarity will actually motivate you to do better today.

Whether it’s the gym, your finances, your career, or just living a fun, abundant life—plan for tomorrow, but take action today.

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