Men: Problems are a sign of life.

Problems are a sign of life, it means you want change

To keep it real, problems are a sign of life. Why not? Even your frustrations. Whether you want to lose a few pounds, save for an awesome vacation, get that business off the ground or have that awesome date night with your girl or wife. 

Problems are truly a sign of life. You see because when you have problems, you have pain, you have a physical sensation when you think about these things. A message your body is sending you that you got to work through it. 

I mean guys and girls come on, if we didn’t have problems we wouldn’t be reading this blog, or writing this blog. For example, one of my problems is having the discipline and making the time to just put pen to paper with this blog. 

Another problem is figuring out how to get this blog out there. That’s a problem and a good thing. You see three years ago or even two years ago, I never thought I’d be doing this at all. I could look at this and go woe is me, I have so much going on, but screw that this problem is a good thing. 

If you are single and dating, and feeling frustrated, it’s a sign of life, you want change.

What I really urge from you guys is tell me, or yourselves, how your problems are a sign of life. If you are single and dating, and you have a problem in your dating life, that’s a good thing. You're thinking about it, you're focusing on it, you want to fix it. 

You just need a plan to figure out how exactly you are going to fix it. I remember being frustrated, what I didn’t realize at the time was that it was a sign of life, I was ready to make a change and take action. 

And yes, for those who know I made the mistake of a quick fix. Although that was a mistake because I was not being true to myself, I learned so much for it. So much that I want to give it away, so you can have an awesome dating- life, and work through your problems. 

Guys, if you are single and dating, you can start here with this picture. As I continue on with this service, they’ll be an entire free online dating profile checklist, with exact pictures, details and prompts. For now, sorry guys, best I can do is this one. The rooftop picture…Click Here

Married, Relationship? Feeling Pain, Anger, Annoyed, Jealous, Fearful…Also a sign of life, you want the change!

Then there are guys who are in relationships and married. The pain you feel in that relationship also is a sign of life, it’s a great sign. It means you want to do better. The first thing you have to ask yourself, are you willing to work through it. 

If you are, great, decide what those pain points are, those attractive and unattractive behaviors you are willing to work through, identify and challenge yourself to display more and less of.

For example, if you are someone who struggles with anger, or is easily annoyed at your wife, and are self-aware that you do, yes that’s a problem but also a sign of life, it’s a sign you want your marriage to be better, and you want to be a better husband. 

Start Slow, that’s what true change is

Start slow, Start with that simple walk in the door, and smile. “Baby, how are ya.” Guys a little reminder, when I do put quotes in articles, it’s what rolls off my tongue both me as a person and as I’m typing. 

Don’t be an A.I. (and not Allen Iverson) robot. Be yourself, and see what rolls off your tongue. Ask yourself, If I walked in with the biggest smile and greeted my wife like I was in love with her, what would I say? 

Boom you did it. You just asked yourself a great question and answered it yourself, in a way that rolls off your tongue. Say it, every day, right when you get home. Every day, repeat it, repeat it, and repeat it. Show your wife that no matter what you are going to be sweet, kind, cool, calm, relaxed.

Remember guys, no quick fixes. Give this small habit time, and time for your wife to feel the difference you are showing up. No matter what, every day, same time, same day, and same place, when you walk in home, you say that sweet loving, “Hey baby, how are ya?”

Need help?  We can work through it together by clicking that contact me tab above. 

Attractive and Unattractive Behavior. Identify the bad ones, bite the bullet on the good ones.

Guys, what if you are feeling needy, jealous, in a relationship, and arguing, thinking the worst? That’s a pain point, but also a sign of life. It’s a sign you want to do better for your girl, be her rock, be her mountain, and also be cool as hell (yes that’s an oxymoron), when things don’t exactly go your way. 

Like if she’s out with her friends and doesn’t text you or can’t see you when you want to see her. That is something I totally had to overcome myself. My tip, learn to enjoy your relationship. Know what’s attractive, and just do it, bite that bullet it’s hard, but do it, and always have a plan. 

For Future Reading and Servies.

Guys if you are married and or in a relationship, I totally love working with men to overcome what they need to work through in their marriage or relationship, to truly show up at their best. You can read more about it here. 

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I just love talking about dating, relationships, and how exactly to help you when you want to help, no matter how you want it. First we just need a plan. 

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