How Do You, Respect Yourself?

It’s an important question to ask ourselves. Why? Because if we truly respected ourselves, we would put ourselves first and be truly motivated to work through our problems and frustrations.

If you’re dating or in a relationship

Respecting yourself might be, hey that’s not cool, I don’t appreciate that. But why don’t we? Because there’s a fear, a fear that something bad will happen, an argument, a fight, a break up, and even worse real emotional pain that we will feel and want to avoid. So ask yourself, what’s more important, what, “MIGHT HAPPEN,” or simply respecting yourself.

The truth is we feel that pain, we don’t like it, and want to avoid it, so we spiral in it, and even get caught up in it. The truth is life is simple, we make it complicated. If you’re girl did something not cool, tell her, and then zip it. Give her a chance, “My bad baby, I’m sorry.” Or, “Screw You, I’ll do what I want.”

I get it guys this pain sucks, I get it, but if you truly respect yourself and want to, then you can communicate values in a cool, calm way. After all it’s just your values. If respecting yourself was truly the most important thing, then when you do feel disrespected, the actions of your girl will actually be less emotionally draining. Why? Because your priority is that value and respect on you

Let me be clear; don’t just pick a fight with your girl, but be cool, calm, collected, go slow, say it slow, let time wait slowly, and just keep it real. There’s a little more nugget of truth is if you were truly comfortable with yourself, and with that value, then you’d be able to keep it real, and not have that emotional pain, and outburst behind it.

What if you’re dating?

Well we’ve all been there, out at a bar and want to say hello to that girl. Respecting yourself in the dating world might mean going over to that girl you think is really cute, and saying, “Hey what’s your name, look I had to come by and say hi, you are really cute.” Is that balls? Yes! Is that a lot for someone just starting out, or working through these anxieties? Yes it is.

But you know Guy, think of respecting yourself, if you truly respected yourself, you’d go there and say something, and try the action. Because when you choose to sit in that pain, emotion, or even physical sensation, or that thought that stops you from going, you’re not respecting yourself. Your respecting your emotions more than yourself.

Speaking of dating, if you are single and dating, be on the lookout this weekend as I use my value of personal growth and helping yourself to show you guys how to take the absolute best Steak Picture, for your dating profile. This is my third attempt, and I’ll be adding the details to make it even better, And while were at it, a special thanks to my photography princess :)

So guys, ask yourself.

If you truly respected yourself, what would be different? Would you you be at the gym more, would you be going for a walk more, would you be a better husband? Would you save money for an awesome vacation for yourself? Ask yourself also, why did you say the answer you gave. Ask yourself why did I say, if I really respected myself, I’d argue less with my wife.

Is it because you are tired of arguing, and want to be in a better marriage and feel love and give love again. Is it because you know you were in better shape, years or months ago and are tired of thinking about it, and feeling frustration. Or is it because you want to go on that fun vacation and want to do it without worrying about money.

So ask yourself what do you want to work through

We all have frustrations, challenges and problems we have to work through. I urge you, think about them and with the thought of how you’d respect yourself if you were to work through that problem, or that challenge. Then just go slow as you do it, be mindful about it, and keep it real with yourself as you do it. Start working through it,.

Once you have that value of respecting yourself, you make a plan on how to do it. Make the plan simple, if I do this today, I took a step toward this goal, this problem, and I feel good about respecting myself and the progress I made. Then once you make that plan and know you respect yourself, you can ride out those urges , and those waves to go against it. Why? Because you decided you respect yourself, and you’ll feel that same respect yourself just as much as you feel the emotions and urges to gamble, not go go the gym, or yell at your wife or girlfriend.

Respecting yourself means thinking about it that feeling it causes as you decide to take the action toward that goal, and removing that frustration.

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