How to Respect Your Time in Dating and Relationships?

If You can Respect Your Time, Then you Can Respect Your Money, Growth, and Happiness. It’s an old saying but isn’t it true? Respecting time and money go hand and hand. Whether it is time is money, or Mo Money Mo Problems. 

 The truth is, respecting your time is important not just in respecting your money but your goals, your relationships, and your personal growth. For example; If you can respect your time, then you can respect your fitness goals, the shape you want to get in, and the work you put into it. 

You can respect the time spent in the gym, the workout, the meal prepping. You can respect and work toward the vision you have for your body. 

Respecting your time means you can respect your goals

If you can respect your time, then you can respect the time it takes, and the money you save for that fun vacation. 

You can respect how long it takes you to save for that vacation. This way you can go on that vacation without even thinking twice.  

If you can respect your time, then you can work toward giving your life purpose, meaning, and fun.

Here’s a personal example: I can’t stand the people at my gym. I hate that place. But one thing I do respect is the people (yes I can’t stand them but I respect them). 

Why? Because they are there bright early like me, 04:30am. Not just one day or two days, but day in and day out, five days a week. 

And while I can be honest and tell you the guys I have in mind all look better than me, I'm also comfortable enough in my own skin to say, what drives me to get up that early isn’t actually not to go the gym, or getting in great shape. 

Is it important to me? Yes? But what’s more important is my time. My 7am blog post! The time I put in before work to write, draft, edit, and post this blog post. 

Let’s be brutally honest: The phone machine is bad!

We are all guilty of the phone machine and the algorithm. I am sure if you are reading this blog post, you spend way more time than you want scrolling instagram, facebook, and tik-tok; you get the point. 

I get it, it’s fun seeing the next story, the next reel, and the next meme. It’s also fun seeing what’s next in NFL free agency. I get it, it can be truly addicting to where you can’t put the thing down, we are all guilty of it (a broad assumption, but I believe a safe one). 

Here’s my thing: if you are stuck doing more scrolling on the phone machine than you want too; isn’t it going to be harder to build the life you truly want?

Isn’t it going to be harder to get in great shape, save for that fun vacation (or plan it), advance your job, career, study for that test, get that promotion, and feel loved in your dating and relationship life. 

It’s almost like by scrolling social media, we are just engaging in bad behavior, due to a deficit mindset. 

If You’re Single and Dating 

You want that girl you went out with the other night to call you or text you. You also want that feeling. That good feeling of you touching the phone and seeing that name, or that unsaved number pop-up on your phone. 

So as we touch our phone, and check our messages almost mindlessly, we wind up back on that dating app, instagram, or facebook reel and newsfeed. 

Which is fine, except is it really? The reason you are back on that phone is because that text did not come in, and you are looking for something to fill that feeling. 

Guys I get it, we have all been there and done that. 

If you're in a relationship 

You love it when your girl’s name pops up on your phone, you smile, and are happy. So when it’s not there, we scroll. 

What if you’re married?

Well the same rules apply for the men in a relationship. You want to stay off the phone, and be busy at work and your career. 

Of course this does not mean ignoring your girlfriend or wife, but it does mean give her them the time of day whether it is a text or phone call, when she does reach out. 

Then when you get home, really give them the time of day, with your time and attention. “Baby, How was your day?” Then just listen. Then keep on listening, and giving your attention. 

Be intentional with your time! Respect your time!

Scrolling social media simply makes it hard to respect your time. If you can’t respect your time, then you can’t be intentional with the life, and lifestyle you want to create for yourself. 

I want you guys to use your time with intention; to take meaningful action toward your goals, even the small actions. 

For example, I use my time in the morning, an hour before work, to write, draft, edit, post, and publish these blog posts. 

How using my time intentionally helped me in dating?

When I was dating my girlfriend now, I used my 5am wake up time to respond to Hinge Messages. I responded once, that was it, then went to the gym. 

The next day I simply repeated it until we were out on our first date 

That’s right, just one 5am message a day until we made plans for our first date

Now she’s my true ten. I was intentional with my time in dating, dating apps. It was attractive behavior. Yes  I was also scarce, but my action, and each message was meaningful. 

I’m lucky I get her all to myself. She’s my biggest cheerleader, and now I simply pay the lessons, successes and failures I learned in the dating and relationship world to you. 

I put my personal experience, along with my therapist hat, to help you achieve all the success you want in not just dating and relationships, but in personal growth as well. 

What if you are in a relationship? How can you respect your time? Simply wait for her to text you. 

Yes I know, it sucks, it can feel like you want to pull your hair out of your head, bite your nails, and check that green circle on the phone (usually the bottom right on an iPhone). Just wait. Waiting is respecting your time. 

When she texts you, make a date. Whether it is, “Hey baby, wanna come by later,” or, “Let’s make plans soon, when are you free.”

That is one thing I am immensely thankful I learned from Corey, he taught me the phone is really for setting appointments only. 

The men I work with often are guilty of receiving validation through their girl texting them and giving them the time of day. I get it, I get it, and oh yeah, I get it. 

But be someone who feels good when they are with their girl, not just from a phone message. 

If you are single and dating, 

you can respect your time, by doing the same. Wait for that girl you are dating to text you, then make the date. Be direct, decisive and get right to the point. 

If they respect you and your time, then they likely will be eager to make a date, if you offer it to them. 

They’ll say, “I’m free Wednesday,” “I’m free Thursday,” 

Then you just set the time, and place whether you are picking them up or meeting them out. Follow it up with a sound good? Wait for them to say yes, then call it a day. 

If you’re married, 

Take your wife out. Come home and give your time and attention. Don’t be distracted by the Knick game, or Met game, or why Pete Alonso isn’t on the Mets anymore, or tankathon.com (probably for you NJ Nets fan out there. 

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If you are single and dating I have just the thing for you. The exact step by step six pictures I used to not just propel my dating life on dating apps, but to match with and date my girl now. They are all posted below.