How to Manifest your Intention in Dating, Relationships, and Growth?
By the end of this blog post you are going to be able to understand how intention plays out in your own personal growth, whether it is in the world of dating and relationships, your career/purpose, your personal finance, or even getting in shape. Let’s begin.
This is not my first blog post about intention. However, I do want to take a step back and write about what exactly the intention is. Intention is simply your ability to carry out your plan, and your action to reach those goals.
We use intention, to draw on our discipline, abilities, and regulate our thoughts, and emotions to carry out the actions needed to reach our goals, and tp do exactly what we need to. We use intention to take action.
To Keep it Real:
My goal is to grow my audience. The action I need to take is to write these blog posts. I use the intention to set aside the time to write, draft, edit and then publish these blog posts.
What gets in the way of intention? What gets in the way of taking that action?
Emotions for one. Do you ever, just not feel like doing it? Do you ever doing what you are not supposed to be doing, like scrolling social media, or not talking to that cute girl you want to talk to?
Do you ever find yourself arguing with your wife way more than you should or want to?
You might want to have a fun and loving marriage, talk to more girls when you are out, ask more girls out. But just because you want to do it, and have a plan to do so, it doesn’t always mean you are able to, it’s hard to follow that plan I get it.
Here’s some more examples:
Do you ever find yourself putting off updating that resume, going to the gym, or setting aside money for that fun vacation?
If you were intentional about these things, you would know exactly what you want, have a plan for them, and set aside the time (and money) for them.
Intent is really what you choose to put to the universe. It’s the action you choose to take toward your goals, like these blog posts, like studying for that test, and updating that resume (all aspects and details that go into advancing your career and purpose).
Sometimes things get in the way of intent like our emotions, life’s curveballs, negative thoughts, and worse fear. But what’s more important, whatever gets in the way, like our emotions, our intent to take action?
If you are reading a blog post like then chances are, it’s the former.
As a therapist
I work with you to understand the things that stop you from putting your intent out there. It sucks, I get it. It sucks to overthink calling that girl for that date.
It sucks to see that girl and not be able to say, “You are really cute, what’s your name.”
It sucks to overthink your relationship, and constantly stressed in it. I can assure these are all things I had to work through myself.
As a coach
I work with you to overcome these emotions that simply stop us from taking the action we want to take, the attractive behavior we need, and to grow in a way that is truly natural and fulfilling to you.
I keep you accountable to the actions you want to take, the plan we make and encourage you to be intentional with all the actions you want to take toward your goals.
I help you get clear about the plan, and repeat it day in and day out.
It’s also important to chill the F out along the way, have fun and not take yourself so damn seriously. Yes I want to be intentional, yes I want you to reach all of your goals, but I don’t want you to be a hardass about it.
I want you to make progress, feel good and enjoy life. Besides, if you are with that cute girl at the bar, you are certainly going to enjoy being approached by the guy who is more chill and calm then the guy who is all serious about his intention and plan.
Just like this blog post, I can’t write a blog post like this if I am an angry bastard who takes themselves so seriously. The same applies to you, it’s a lot harder, and creates a lot more friction if you are so goal focused you can’t have fun along the way.
Intention is your ability to navigate your plan and your actions day by day and moment by moment. At the end of the day it’s a lot easier to navigate your plan if you are chill, peaceful and relaxed.
How to deliver intention?
Good old fashioned pen and paper. Why? Because you are saying this is what I intend to put out there (like this blog post). I use this computer and word document as a tool to put my intention out there.
Just like if you want to get in great shape, you use the weights, the treadmill and diet as a tool and a plan for your intention.
Just like you use a savings account to save for that fun vacation.
Most importantly, just like you use the phone to make dates with your wife, girlfriend, or a girl you are dating.
Be intentional about what you want and then go out and do it. Use the computer, phone, money, the gym, as ways to execute your plan.
One thing is clear, your intention is up to you.
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