The Best Prompts for Your Dating Profile
So let’s talk about prompts and their significance. Let's be honest, they are just as important as pictures for our profile. Why? Because if we want fun, interesting, pictures that are good quality, then we also want fun, interesting prompts that say who we are with confidence.
Let’s keep it real, pictures are going to drive the profile, they say we do cool things, add details that make them look even cooler, better and you more attractive, so we need our prompts to do the same. I like to think of prompts as the the garnish on a well put together plate of food.
Your prompts embody who you are, what you do, and what you love.
Do you love going to the gym, working out, or is this just very important to you? If it's important in your life, convey it! The detail we focus on is saying it in a in a fun and punchy way.
Think back to our workout picture, we didn’t just take a picture of you doing bicep curls in a regular gym. We went for a magazine style photo of you doing something cool, battle ropes, or boxing. You can read about that picture here.
For example when I had a prompt about the gym it read, “A good workout, healthy meal prep, and a savory snack.” Notice this line says I workout and eat healthy but in a fun and punchy way, almost like a punchline.
Prompts are also a chance to have things in common
Guys, let’s be honest; We probably are going to want to date girls that work out, and have a healthy lifestyle. So when a girl reads this, it’s also a chance for her to go, “I meal-prep, workout, and also love a good savory cheat meal.”
Now, is the girl going to say those exact things in her head? No, likely not, but will she think and feel the commonality…Yes!!
Why? Because the prompt is punchy, fun and also establishes something in common. The bottom line, she will look very briefly (at that prompt), smile, and feel good in that exact second she looks at that prompt.
I want you to think of prompts as a chance to show who you are in a way that resembles a stovetop, cooking a nice meal. Think of each prompt as a burner on that stove top, with a pot on it; you are simply conveying something you love and important to you to in each burner/pot. Each burner is really just one part of your life.
So let’s call this next prompt stove top number 2:
I love a good cruise, that’s right I really do. Unfortunately, I haven’t been on one in a while and hopefully that changes soon, but that’s besides the point. So how I can say I love cruises in a fun, interesting, and effective way?
Here’s some examples:
Example: Norwegian or MSC?
Example: “Tell me your favorite travel stories.”
Example: “Spain or Italy”
Example: “Using points for miles”
Example: Put more stamps on my passport
One of the fundamental components of this profile is being who you are. Maybe you don’t want to go to Europe, Asia, or travel the world, so make it you. For example, maybe like a nice weekend getaway to a different state or city, or maybe you want to see all 50 states.
For the prompt on Hinge: This year I really want too,
Your Answer: “Have more weekend getaways.”
The trick is to think of what you want to say and convey first, then go into the app, and pick the prompts that make it easy to do so.
For example, “This year I really want to,” is a prompt from the app, when you say, “Travel More,” You are really saying I love traveling, and found the prompt from the app to have you say that. Then you said it in a punchy, simple, effective way, ‘Travel More.”
Let’s move over to our next burner on our stove top, our career.
Personally, this is something I think everyone should have. Why? Because girls like a guy who loves their job, and is passionate about their career, a business they are starting, or just a purpose they have.
Let’s be clear and realistic, not everyone is going to absolutely love their job. But, I’m sure you can find a part or two of something you do love about it, or an inspiration you have going forward that is relatable to this.
Example: For the Hinge Prompt: Green Flags I Look For, I had, “Respecting My Career and Dedication to it.” This says My career is important to me and I’m dedicated to it. I remember getting several comments on girls just being interested about my career, asking What it is?
As a therapist, I really love helping people, and making that difference, especially when it starts to click you can see and feel that progress. For a dating app, that is way too specific convey in a prompt, so another good choice would be, “Making a difference in people’s lives.”
If you are a carpenter, contractor, or someone who does something with manual labor you can say…
“Getting my hands dirty at work.”
“A fun and challenging project”
If you are in law enforcement you can say,
“Helping others in need”
“Helping those in stress”
“My uniform and badge”
What if you have a business or career aspiration,
You can use, “Start my Private Practice”
“Create engaging content for others.”
“Advance my career”
The bottom line to this prompt is say something you love about your job, career, and say it in that fun and punchy way.
For the last prompt you can go with several options.
One of these is an option that makes it easy for the girl to comment on because they will have an opinion on it, especially if it's popular and trending in the news and pop culture.
Use the prompt from the app “My most controversial opinion is” or “Change my mind.” Or whichever else fits for an opinion answer such as these.
Example: Taylor and Travis:
Prompt: My most controversial opinion is
Answer: Taylor and Travis won’t last or
Answer: Nobody cares about Taylor and Travis (you get the point).
Here’s an idea from the Golden Globes and Arianna Grande (as when I’m writing this, the Golden Globes, was just a week ago)
Prompt: Change my mind about
Or
Prompt: My most controversial opinion
Answer: I’ve never seen Wicked, nor will I
Answer: Wicked should have won every award
Along the same lines, here’s one more example, although just not as recent
Prompt: Convince me otherwise:
Answer: Giselle should have never left Tom
Prompts that can tie you all in at one
For example , I had…
Prompt: “You should leave a comment if”
Answer: “Therapists, Brunch, and Mimosa’s”
Why is this a good one? Because it describes what the girl likes, with a sprinkle of me in there, I like mimosa’s, I like brunch and I’m a therapist, but really I had something fun and punchy, with little glimpses of me.
So to make it you, let’s make it mad libs style
Let’s use Career, Fun Date, and Drink
Prompt: You should leave a comment if
Answer: Cops, Gin, and appetizers
Answer: Lawyers, Margs, and Tacos.
I want to add this disclaimer
Don’t be too specific, like your favorite date, or favorite band, or favorite this, or that. Being too specific will leave most girls not connecting to that prompt, you want that a brief, small, reaction/feeling in the moment, not connecting on a logistical form of you both love sushi or tacos.
For example: I love Nickelback, but if I were to use them in a prompt, maybe one or two out of every ten girls would get a prompt related to it Most would just have no reaction. We don’t want no reaction, we wan a brief, quick smile, or “Mmm interesting.”
Look if you love football (which I do), if you have a prompt about the Jets being good, it might hit home with one or two people, but you are going to get no reaction with that prompt for a lot more people.
Example Answer: “The Jets will win more than four games.”
Is this funny, yes? True also yes. Most importantly, it’s just going to fall flat or with no reaction to most girls.
Instead try this one:
“Football, Family, and Friends.” or
“Football and Family.”
Prompts that convey where you’re from
What about if you live in a certain neighborhood or city and a couple of the restaurants or places are well known.
For example I live in Brooklyn, I can reference Roll N Roaster, or Spumoni Gardens, or even Brennan and Car and give people an engaging prompt which offers a chance for them to comment, let’s see…
Answer to a prompt: “Roll n Roaster or L and B?”
Answer to a prompt: L and B is overrated
Answer to a Prompt: I’ve never been to Coney Island
What’s good about this? If the girl is from Brooklyn, it’s a chance for her to insert her opinion and comment. She may also just smile because you get it, those places are there and cool, or there and overrated. She might go “I actually kind of agree,” “L and B is overrated” or “Of course Roll n Roaster is better.”
If she’s not from your part of town, but as heard about them, she might go, “NOOO WAY, I always wanted to try (that place).”
These types of prompts are getting the girl engaged, even if it’s for a brief moment. That means she is associating something good with your profile and likely to swipe right, double tap, or match.
A slight controversial prompt:
What about a prompt that says what you are looking for in a girl? Here’s why this is a good idea; Albeit a little bit forward. Because men who know what they want are way more attractive than those who don’t. That covers all areas: your goals, your life, dinner. If you know what you want, you are more attractive! Even when it comes to the girls you want.
Another reason: When you are describing the girl, she is going to say, “Oh wow, that’s me,” or “I’m that.”
Example Answer: “A cute blonde, blue eyes, and awesome smile”
Why this is good:? It says you know what you want (that’s highly attractive,” and gives the girl a chance to go, “I’m blonde and have blue eyes.”
Now you might say, what if the girl is not blonde with blue eyes, what if she’s a brunette with brown eyes. Ok that’s very real so let’s see. If she is brunette and brown eyed, reads that and feels like, “I’m not blonde, screw him.” then that is someone insecure, and someone you probably don’t want to go out with.
If she is brown haired and dark eyed, and confident, she won’t be bothered by it, she’ll play along with it. That is a much better quality woman.
I do want to also mention the pros and cons of this type of prompt.
A pro: Having a more attractive prompt (knowing what you want), describing potential matches, and attracting confident women not bothered by not being the exact description.
A con: It is forward, and may get way less matches, or even put off some women.
In closing
Make these prompts you. Make them fun and punchy. Just like the pictures, which boil down to what each picture is about making them you, then adding in the details, the prompts are no different.
The prompts boil down to what you are about, and who you are as a person. Whether it’s loving a healthy lifestyle, traveling, knowing the type of girl you are attracted to, or loving your career. The details are just how you say it, in that fun, simple, and punchy way.
