Men In a Relationship: “Have Fun Babe.”
What does it mean, and why is it so important?
It means when you’re girl goes out for the night, you’re cool with it, you’re indifferent, and most importantly, you are being your most attractive self.
Let’s keep it real,
when you are dating someone, you really like, or with a girl who you love, sometimes those words aren’t easy, I get it, most of us reading have probably felt that it was hard to say those words and really feel that way at some point.
More importantly, if you’re goal is to have a relationship, or a dating life that is really top-notch quality, especially in a relationship, those words are truly important, after all, love is allowing
First:
it’s attractive, it means I’ll be fine without you for the night, or for a weekend, or for a few days. It says you’re indifferent, and you’ll do your own thing.
Second
it means, you know she’ll be back when she misses you, wants her man, to call you, message you or facetime you.
One thing I learned from Corey, is love is allowed, which means letting that person come and go as she pleases, whether you are dating, or in an exclusive/long term relationship. And let’s face it, sometimes when you really like or love that person, it can be hard.
Let’s be honest
When you are really into your girl, and she goes out for the night, you can be anxious, worried, or even angry at times, or just uneasy and uncertain. I get it, we’ve all been here, but don’t let those feelings take over the most attractive behavior.
Why? Because the behavior drives the relationship! Not your feelings.
Let’s also be honest, a really great place to get to be not just saying it, but meaning, it is thinking, it and feeling it, having your words line up exactly with how you feel, and how you behave.
If you can’t think it and feel it, as you say it, then it will come across to your girl very likely, their spider senses are always up. You gotta be congruent, with what you say, and what you feel, that drives the behavior.
Some Self Disclosure
Here’s some self-disclosure, you think dating my true ten, it’s easy to say those things, hell no, I love her she’s my girl and I love being with her. BUUUUUUT! I made up my mind that my behavior is the most important, because of the value I have to always be my best in my relationship.
Another thing about values, if you value growth, helping yourself, you can grow in any area of your life, not just in the way you date, or your relationship.
How would you say it, if…
So guys, if you knew your girl was going to have a fun night out, and come right back to you, what would you think? You might think she’ll be back, or great I have some space.
How would you feel? Calm, relaxed, and just cool?
What might you say?, "Have fun babe”, or maybe something else like, “Sweet baby, have a great time’
The trick is for you to find your voice, your behavior. What would YOU do, or what would YOU say, if you knew she’d have and she’d be back.
The Behavior is Easy; The Emotions are Not.
I promise you, the simple action and behavior of saying this is easy, come on after all, it’s three words, but the emotions behind it sure as hell aren’t. If you do feel that way, maybe one day we’ll be working together.
Guys, one reason why I write these blogs, and push this content, and my business is because, I know if I can do it, you can do it too.
So guys, try it out this weekend or this week, “Have fun babe.” “Have a great time.” More importantly try it out in your voice, and your words.
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