Men: Ya gotta be willling to figure it out

Men: You gotta be willing to figure it out. 

Look, I’m lucky, very lucky. I get to write a blog about going from being single and making a terrible mistake to now writing one with an awesome girl. But I’m going to be honest it wasn’t a quick fix. 

Whether you are married, in a relationship or single the real answer is, it is not a quick fix. Whether you want your wife to be sweet, kind and loving, are tired of getting jealous or feeling needy with your girl, or frustrated at being single neither is a quick fix. 

Married: Get to the bottom of it.

As a matter of fact all those problems suck. However you know what doesn’t suck ,the solution, what you do to get out of it. If you’re married you gotta be willing every night to walk in that door and be sweet, kind, and loving to your wife. 

You gotta be willing to not let her attitude bother you (let’s be clear it doesn’t mean be a bitch). You do have to be willing to get to the bottom of that attitude, and find out what’s you gotta be willing to be indifferent about it also, as she gives you an attitude, or simply is just not showing up in that moment how you want her to. 

Relationship: Attractive or unattractive behavior

Look if you’re in a relationship and you’re tired of arguing with your girl, or feeling jealous, or feeling needy, you gotta be willing to do all the things that totally reverse it, it’s not a quick fix. I repeat, I’m lucky I went through it and came out of it. 

Single and Dating:

If you are single and dating, you gotta be willing to walk up to that girl and say, “You're hot, what’s your name (as often noted, use your words not mine).” Why do I say that, because that’s what rolls off my tongue, I want to know what rolls off your tongue. 

Also, if you are single and dating and swiping on dating apps, you gotta be willing to do the right thing, like take some awesome , “Profile Pictures,” that as my girl reminded me…Are You! Not a dog picture, not a social picture, and definitely not a status picture. 

I repeat, I’m lucky, I get to type this after not just coming out of it, but being with a girl now who is an absolute gem. I’m a therapist first, and at the same time also someone who remembers what it was like to be single and frustrated. 

Quick Fixes don’t work

If you want a quick fix…I’m really not for you. But if you want to look back on your life six months from now and go, Wow I did all that, then this might be for you. I’ll show you all the pictures that build an attractive profile, with an emphasis on profile and an emphasis on you. 

I’ll take you writing prompts that are you, you and only you, and at the same time make the girl go, you know that’s cool, I will swipe right. I’ll take you through meeting her, going out on a first date (and then forgetting your wallet, no wait, that was me), then going back to get it. 

I’ll take you through dating her, doing it right. I’ll take you through it. I'll take you through attractive behavior, show it to you and how to clearly either be attractive or not attractive. 

Change is Six Months

I want you in my room, only if you really want to be there. I’ll take you through everything you want to be different six months from now. Why six months? Because six months change, six months is a habit, six months is a whole other person. 

Three months is significant  difference, a month is a change, and days and weeks are habits, those are actions, those are the behaviors that add up to the month, months, and six months. 

I’ll take you through it, as long as you do it!

My only job here is to show you the behavior, the pictures, the prompts. 

The mindset, the actions, that applies to any guy reading this, any girl also. Look I’m not perfect, but I’m usually right. Life is simple, we make it complicated. You gotta let it out, but then you gotta figure it out. 

Let’s be clear what moves me emotionally is men, who want to figure it out. Whether you want to figure out your marriage, your relationship, or navigate the world of being single and dating. I got ya. 

So, What’s Your Story?

I know my story, which is why I’m totally cool with putting out a blog for the public to read. What I really want to know is your story?

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