How to keep talking to girls when it’s so hard to do it

Today’s blog post will give a recap of last night when I went out with one of my coaching clients to help work on his anxiety and the action he so desperately wants to take with talking to girls.

In today’s therapy and dating blog post we’ll discuss how to keep it going, build parameters around it, and go at your own pace to overcome this challenge.

You can have fun and work on yourself in talking to girls.

I’m proud to say he did it, and it was awesome, on a side note I had a blast.

Last night was awesome. Not only did I have so much fun with my friends, but it was almost like that blog I wrote really came to light. 

You can check out that blog post here, Single and Dating: You’re Cute What’s Your Name?

I never want to come across like I am shouting down, or better than.

The whole point of this service is for me to put out there that we are all having human experiences. 

In this case and business, I just really enjoy blogging and talking about the world of dating and relationships, especially as a therapist.

I went out with one of my “Coaching clients” and I said look, no matter what, you are going to go home, so no matter what when you go home do you want to say I did it, or I didn’t do it. 

Yes I gave him the line, you’re cute, what’s your name, and guess what, he did it. I’ll leave the exact amount of times out of here, but damn I was proud, I’ll just say several lol. 

You don’t have to be a pick-up artist, you just have to want it

That’s kind of what I want you to ask yourself as the reader, if you did something yesterday, you’ve been putting off, or that has been causing you pain or distress or avoiding for a while, now what?

Do you need to build on it, do you need to expand it? Do you need to keep doing a little bit more? 

Look, my client and definitely myself are no pick-up artists, if you want that go watch Mystery, or read the Game by Neil Strauss,

I’m also no Corey Wayne or Todd V. I’m just finding my voice, my therapist voice if you will..

Build the habit of just doing it, the rest will come

I told my client, we’ll figure out the rest after, but the habit started tonight, that was awesome, and I’m truly proud. 

So when I said, what’s next? He looked me right in the eye and said we’ll gotta keep doing it, go back at it again tomorrow. 

Guy’s go at your own pace, if you asked one girl, for her name, and feel the most important thing is do it again, then go do it! Awesome, and call it a day, then go on and live your life. 

If you feel you have to ask two girls what their name is today to move it forward, sweet then do it, trust yourself. 

If you’re a guy who is interested in working with me

I offer one on one therapy and coaching services. You can read more about my services for single and dating men here, and/or email me for a free conversation. 

I also work with couples, and men who want a better marriage or relationship. 

If you’d like to submit a question to my blog, email it here.