Single and Dating: Do Not Ask Out a Girl Like This

So, the other day I went back to recall an old text exchange between me and my true ten. I knew she tested me and I don’t blame her one bit. I pulled up the text message and thought to myself, what did I do that warranted that test. Then I looked at that text message to ask her out and I said, “Oh my god this is a disaster,” no wonder why you messed with me. 

So Why Was it a Disaster?

Very simple, I was not direct and decisive; I was passive and timid. That is why today’s blog post is about when you are single, dating, and asking that girl out you really like, it’s really important to be direct, decisive, and get right to the point. 

That’s one thing I learned from Corey Wayne, his work has been a great influence on me, you can read more about it here. 

So Why is Being Direct so Important in the Dating World?

By being direct, you are stating your intent. When you have been out on one, two, or even three dates with a girl you really like (at this point it was three), you are keeping it real, and owning it. 

“I like you,” or "I want to see you,” or “I had a great time the other night,” that is putting your intent out there. You are doing so with a statement, followed by a chance to make a date happen, that’s why I love saying, “When are you free?”

Now look I’ll cite Corey again, which is, “Don’t be a robot and say when are you free over and over again.” But, you have to develop a strong voice that is truly yours. This voice states your intention, (want to see you) and direct (when are you free)?

Now when are you free is how I developed my voice, more importantly for you the reader I want you to develop your voice. I want you to develop the way you repeatedly, and more comfortably ask out those girls you really want to see again. 

Maybe your voice is, “Let’s grab a drink, what day is good for you.?” or, “Got somewhere fun I want to take you, what day is good for you?”

Here’s how I work with you

As a therapist if you are single and dating, I work with you to develop that authentic voice with confidence over and over and again. Whether you are asking a girl out for the next date, a phone number, or going for the kiss. 

I work with you to get you comfortable being direct, decisive, and your most attractive self, as you navigate the single and dating scene. After all this is what builds attraction and makes progress in your single and dating life. 

Think about it guys, if you are not being direct, and taking action, how can you expect to make progress? You won’t. But if you are direct, over, and over again, eventually the results will not only come, but you will feel confident, and successful your actions are getting better, and becoming a natural part of who you are. 

Correct me if I’m wrong guys, but if being direct when asking girls out, and meeting them was just a natural part of your dating life, chances are you wouldn’t be reading a blog post like this, right? Likely being direct is not a natural part of you are (with girls), and it is causing you a lot of pain, that is why you are on a blog post like this, I get it.

Together we’ll grow your natural, most confident and direct self. Whether it is going for the kiss on that first date, asking that girl out for a second or third date, and/or also meeting girls when out in public (probably the most hated thing we all have to do). 

If you are single and dating

I work with you to develop your own natural confidence, voice, and make it a natural part of who you are. Whether it is on a date, at a bar, or just asking them out for the next one. 

If you are single and dating, you can download my free dating profile. It is my gift to you, it is the exact dating profile I used to match with, date, and be with my true ten. 

Included in this pdf are articles I have written on exactly how to take each of the six pictures and prompts to have an awesome dating profile, that gets you more matches and dates. 

Most importantly the Dating Profile is not just free, it is written in a way where you can take the information and pictures, and know exactly how you want to apply each picture to yourself, and make it genuinely and authentically you. 

You can download the profile here. 

To work with me directly

You can check out my rates page and contact me here.