How do you know you’re Enough?

I am not going to lie, this is totally not the original blog, I had planned this morning, but whatever, it’s where my mind went, and this blog is about being true, creative, and also authentic. 

It’s a blog about sharing my experience, a human experience, and paying it forward to my slow but growing audience (at least that’s what square space says). 

So I had this thought, how do I know I’m enough,

(as my girl is away on vacation), and not left to be overcome with my own fears, doubts, and emotions. 

I know I’m enough, because at the end of the day she chooses me, every morning, and every night, I still hear from her, she’s still a sweet cute, loving girl I know, even on vacation. 

So it got me thinking, How do you know you’re enough?

I’m going to phrase this in several ways, maybe you’re at work, going through a difficult time, but no matter what your employer, boss, company still chooses you, after all you’re still working there.

Maybe you are married…

and you are tired of being angry at your wife, how would you know you are enough? Because no matter what your wife still chooses you, by not leaving, by not filing for divorce. 

If you know you are enough, how would you act when you come home?

You’d give her a kiss, smile, and say, “Baby how was your day”?

For me the fundamentals of a good marriage, one of those key components and main ones are right when one or the other partner gets home, “Hey babe, how was your day?”

So guy’s in a marriage, and if you are unhappy, but work on it, how would you act and feel if you were enough?

You’d say, “Hey babe, Saturday I’m taking you out, just be ready by eight.”

My main point here is for the guys in relationships and marriages if you truly knew and felt you were enough everyday, you’d have less anger, remain calm, and be sweet and fun to your wife. 

That my friends sounds like an awesome marriage. 

What about my friends out there in the single and dating world, the one I used to be in. 

If you truly knew you were enough, you’d walk over to that girl at a bar and just say hey you’re cute, what’s your name?

But wait, let me phrase this a little differently. How would you know you were enough just by doing that?

Simple, you see any other guy doing that around you? Nope, and guess what they’re all there for the same reason you are. 

You see that thought, of, of course I’m enough, is now backed up by evidence, a fact, hey, I told her she’s cute, boom, done, simple it’s over. 

Guy’s our thoughts are so consuming we literally look for facts to support them, especially the negative ones, Oh well I used  to look better, or be in better shape, or I don’t have tattoos, 

Or there’s a hundred other guys out there? O.k these are all facts that simply support a limiting belief. What I want to know for my single and dating friends out there, is what are the facts that support the belief, of course I’m enough?

Is it because you went out and said hello to one girl a day?

Is it because you went on that awesome date last week?

Is it because you went out with that girl, and have a plan to call her next week to ask her out again?

Our facts, the ones we do know can totally support us in a belief that we are enough. 

Whether you are single and dating, or married or in a relationship, tell me how do you know you’re enough?

What are those facts?

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