What’s your biggest regret from yesterday? And Why?

If you are truly trying to live a great life, create a great relationship, reach your full potential,

And be the best version of yourself,I would say there are going to be days where you can immediately answer this question, and more importantly why?

For me it’s simple, after the cat sitting, and heading out to a local Irish bar, I drank more than I wanted to. 

As a result, I ordered takeout, made crumbs, and to be honest just felt like a moron, but more importantly, why do I regret it?

It’s simple, that’s not the image I want to have for my girl, that’s not what I want to put toward my relationship. 

Also, I’m not going to be the only one in that home, so if I left it, in less then ideal condition after getting drunk and eating spicy curly french fries, that’s on me.

This is a blog that is here for the reader, but in order to be here for you I have to keep it real, it’s a blog about all of us having human experiences, I just choose to write them in the context in the world of dating and relationships.

And while I have regret, I’m here to explain why, and keep moving it forward, for me and to see if you want to join me on the way.

So now it’s time for you to answer, if you could answer,

What’s your biggest regret from yesterday and why?

For those looking to argue less and have a better marriage it might be arguing with your wife, it might even be calling her name, or having an argument go longer than it should. 

For those of you who are single and dating, it might be that you did not go out, and capitalize on your momentum for the day before. 

For the couples I work with it might be having an argument extending it with days of silence and just rudeness, not showing up your best for each other. 

One of the things I learned from Corey Wayne is that Alpha's have bad day’s but don’t make it a permanent state (I kind of make no secret, Corey’s work had a huge influence on my life). 

So go ahead answer that question, if you are reading this blog I’m sure you have one regret from yesterday, what is it? And why is it that regret. 

Now move it forward with an example: 

I regret getting mad at my wife, and showing her and having her feel anger, because I know it doesn’t solve anything and is only making my marriage and relationship worse. 

Awesome, you said it out loud, now what would you absolutely do today, so you don’t have that regret?

Answer: No matter what, I’m not gonna get mad or angry, even if I have to go home and say that to her, or acknowledge it, or acknowledge I’ve done it. 

“Hey I was angry yesterday, I know I shouldn’t have gotten angry, or yelled, and today I’m not going to, my bad.” Simple it calls out a behavior, and says you want to better, and it keeps you’re word while doing it. 

Now the part that we work on in the room (a therapy phrase I like to use), is how to prevent that anger, recognizing it, and working toward the outcomes you want, in this case the marriage you want to have, the relationship you want with your wife.

What if you’re single and dating?

If you went out and met four or five girls, and just asked for their names, awesome, if you’re biggest regret is not following it up again yesterday, that’s o.k, acknowledge it…

The other day I was proud of myself, and while yesterday, I should have followed up on it, I’m not going to risk myself going back to my norm, I’m going to make sure I at least say hey you’re cute, what’s your name today. 

Even if you just go to Starbucks and say, Hey is that hazelnut, anything lol.

You can check out that blog at this link, for my clearly simple favorite approaching women line. 

What if you’re a couple, maybe even reading this together

If you are a couple you might regret not sleeping in the bed together yesterday, or trying to talk things out, because you know that not talking it out, only makes either the problem worse, or is just a temporary delay before it surfaces up again. 

So if you’re a couple: Hey we should at least sleep in the same bed tonight, at least we know we're still one, love each other, and at least can connect in a way where we want to work through this rough patch. 

In closing I want to say, the regret is important (from yesterday), but really I am interested in the why in the regret. 

If you can state the why, then you just gave yourself a reason to not do that regrettable behavior today. 

I offer three specific coaching and therapy services in my practice. 

If you are single and navigating the dating world click here, 

If you are a man, who wants to work on and improve his marriage or relationship, click here, 

If you are a couple who wants to work it out together, click here. 

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