Remaining Calm in Dating and Relationships:

The other day the subject of being calm in communication with your loved one came up and it got me thinking this is an absolute perfect topic for this nice little dating and relationship blog. 

Let’s face it, whether you are single and dating, in a relationship, or married, being calm (especially as a man) is so desirable, it is almost one of the most masculine traits I can think of. 

You see right now, being calm for me means, just being able to sit here, and type away with the thoughts, freeing, flowing, almost like I am playing a game.

After all, when you do something you love, it should feel like playing. 

So let’s look at some real life scenarios and see how they would play out, what you would think if you were the calmest you could be. 

Single and Dating: 

If you were out for the night with your friends, and knew for sure, you wanted to approach a girl you saw, you would totally want to feel that calmness. Remember boys, calmness is a feeling. 

To put my therapist hat on, if you were feeling calm, and knew you wanted to just say hello that girl, you’d think, hey I’m just going to say hello, give her a compliment and call it a day. 

So what would you do? You’d walk right over knowing hey, I’m just saying, hello, and maybe giving a compliment and saying, “Hey You’re cute, what’s your name (You can click on that blog post below).”

Being calm here is just knowing, Hey, I’m going to say hello, give a compliment and that is it. 

Boom done, over, I’d say pretty calm. Most men who are single and dating have their strengths and weaknesses, just like any client. I have a great friend that can approach any woman simply with ease (his strength). 

While some of my friends are really good at making the dates, once they have started out on the first date or two after. 

If you are single and dating and are interested in my service, check out my men’s dating and relationship service. 

What about if you’re in a relationship?

Well let’s keep it real, when we are not calm, it’s because we fear we are not enough. 

Maybe that fear is brought about by an event, like an argument, or our girl going out for a girls night, or our girl hasn’t gotten back to us in the time we wanted. 

If you were truly calm, what would you think? Ehhh I’ll give her  a day, and she’ll get back to me, if not I’ll give her a call in a day or two. 

If she was going out with her friends you’d say, “Hey babe, have a great time tonight” you’d think awesome, I got some time, I got some space, and she’s going to be happy to spend time with her friends. 

If you are a man in a relationship, and truly want to work on being your best version of yourself in the relationship click here, to learn more about my men who are looking to improve their marriage (yes I mean relationship as well). 

If you’re a couple…

And you are noticing the quality of your marriage is not what it used to be. The first calm step is, jut asking your partner about marriage counseling.

You might say to yourself, hey we both want to do better, and I really want to do better, let me ask my spouse, what they think about marriage counseling?

Why did I phrase it as asking what do they think? Simple because marriage counseling is both about wanting to be in the room at the same time, that is literally the first step. If one of you doesn’t want to be there, it doesn’t work. 

Sure you might have a bad day or two in a session, but long term, it’s a commitment to do better in your relationship, give to your partner, and remain calm, knowing you guys are on the same team, and you both want to figure out. 

You can read more about my marriage counseling service here.

For More information, how to contact me, and other blog posts.

As referenced before, click here for that blog post before on Single and Dating: You’re Cute, What’s your name

So guys and girls (yes girls too), let me hear from you, What is something you want to remain calm about?

Is it a relationship, a marriage, a challenge or struggle you are going through. 

Click on that contact me tab above and send me an email to schedule a therapy session if you want to remain calm about something, and work through it.