Men: What emotions do we show our loved ones?

First the reason, why this blog today?

This is a blog I decided to write when thinking about my parents and realizing how my mother at times can show me nothing other than fear, in everything her tone, words, and actions.

So, it got me thinking, guys, men, married men, single men, and men in relationships, what are the emotions that we are feeling about our marriages, our relationships or even the girls we dating?

Are we putting those emotions toward the other person, if so that’s not cool, and definitely not going to improve your marriage, your relationship, or especially you’re dating life.

Even more, how do you become mindful of that emotion, and turn it around so your wife or girl feels the emotion you really want them to feel.

Come one guys keep it real, if you are reading this, you don’t want your wife or girl to feel your anger, fear, or insecurity.

If you’re reading this you want them to feel your love, and calmness, and ease.

So, guys, are our wives or girlfriends feeling our emotions?

I know first-hand at times I am totally guilty of this.

Are you showing up angry? Maybe your angry because you had a bad day at work, or you’re just going through a rught patch…

Or maybe you feel anger, because you’re not happy with the story I’ve been telling myself about my wife or girlfriend. 

If you’re married and constantly or frequently just angry at your wife or girl, don’t you want to show her love, ease and calmness?

What would it look like if you did?

For me it’s simple, I’d Walk in that door, and just say "Hey babe, how was your day”?

I know I say this one a lot, but the truth is, guy’s it’s so simple, it’s literally the first interaction you have with your wife or girl when you get home from work, or when she does. 

Wouldn’t you want that emotion you show her to be love, kindness, and happiness. 

Besides, “Hey babe, how was your day? It takes two seconds to say and maybe ten to fifteen minutes to just listen and show you care, so guy’s just do it! It’s definitely better than anger. 

Look, Rome wasn’t built in a day, so truly turning around your marriage or relationship takes time, but it does start with the little things, the little changes, that truly go a long way. 

Besides six months from now, do you want to still be married? Great, if so, wouldn’t you want it to be better? Why not just start the little things today.

Repeat it every day, every day, keep calm, when you walk in that door, don’t let your wife feel your anger, after all it’s your anger not hers. 

Arguing? Disagreeing, of course it’s normal these things happen, but is making your wife, or your wife feeling you’re anger in that moment going to help or make it better? Hell no!

As a therapist when I work with men who truly want a better marriage, I am constantly drilling the little things. 

First, they are the easiest changes to make, an easy change to make can also be the first one your wife feels.

Imagine you come home every day, just smiled and said babe, how’s your day for the first month, after a day or two, sure not much might change. 

But what about after two weeks, or two months, you can damn sure bet your wife will feel that difference, even in those initial fifteen minutes. 

Then what, you see the small win and feel the small win with the little changes and the difference in how your wife is showing up in your marriage. 

For those men that are married and read this blog, or even in a long-term relationship, you have this one in the house, boom, walk in that door, how’s your day, tell me everything. 

Fifteen minutes of calm, strength, cool and just hey babe, tell me everything with just listening. 

No anger their folks. 

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