What would you do today, if it wasn’t that bad?

What would you do today if it wasn’t that bad?

We all have these pressing things, some are just hard to overcome, and some we have been working through for months, or maybe even years to overcome them. 

Maybe it’s wanting to lose a few pounds, 10, or 20. 

Maybe it’s wanting to pay off that credit card bill or save for that awesome vacation you want to go on six months from now. 

Maybe if you are married, it’s being able to tell your wife, hey my bad, I really want work on this marriage and do better for us, especially for you. 

Maybe it’s getting the ball started or taking that next little step on a business you're trying to start or just making a little more money. 

We all have things we are trying to overcome (well maybe not Bill Gates, or TJ Watt after that new contact he got). 

So it got me thinking, what would you do, if you said, ehhh that wasn’t that bad. Especially that would make you really feel good about something.

Maybe it’s drinking less, going to the gym a-little more, or even just taking your girl out on a nice date at a new place.

What exactly are you working through, and want to go get, and know that little bit you have to do, could you look at it, think, ehhhh that’s not so bad. 

For example, after typing this, today what I’m going to do that’s not so bad, is definitely not have a drink, why, because I want to look good, get nicer clothes, and having a drink won’t be so bad.

Why because, “Hey, it wasn’t that bad”? Would you do that 50 minutes or 60 minutes on the Stairmaster, or in the gym today, if you looked at it, and said “Hey it wasn’t that bad.”

Would you put away that little extra for that vacation you’re planning, and go, ‘‘Hey that wasn’t that bad.”

Would you buckle down, and tackle that to-do list for work, if you looked at it, and went hey it isn’t that bad. 

What about in my favorite world, the world of dating and relationships?

Would you call that girl you want to see (when the time is right to call), and just say. “Hey what are you up to..was thinking about you, and want to see you, when are you free.”

Would you be able to look at your girl, and tell her hey babe, have fun tonight, when she goes out with her friends, without getting insecure, or worried, or looking at that phone. 

If you’re married, and constantly lose your cool, would you be able to look at your wife, and just walk in that door and say, “Hey babe how was your day?” Well that definitely shouldn’t seem so bad.

There are so many things we think about, mull over, and think about during our day, usually we know what we have to do, but there is an emotion that stops us, or complicates it. 

I’d bet if your reading this you're working through a challenge in life, something you are going through, whether you want to make more money, get in better shape, change your career, or really figure out what you want to do, or whether you really want to master the world of your marriage, relationship, or dating. 

Were all having a human experience, my goal with this blog is to humanize it, in a way that is authentic to me, and also helpful to you. 

So, guys, what’s that thing you’re thinking about doing, or on your mind?

What’s that emotion you feel with it? What are those are repetitive thoughts; emotions you feel with it?

What would you do today about it, if it wasn’t so bad?

Go ahead, go do it. 

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