Relationships and Marriages: Don’t Put the past on the couch.

First the personal example,

To keep it real, it might not be the most appropriate to share the personal example as open as I usually am with it, so I’m going to keep it simple and more personal about me. 

We all have them…fears, doubts, and insecurities in our marriage, or relationship. Don’t let the past on the couch, (the couch being a metaphor for your relationship or marriage). 

What do you mean by, “The Couch.”?

This came from couples counseling, when I was pointing out the things they would argue about, like in-laws, friends, and I said guys, is this really what you want on your couch (in your relationship). 

Just like pain is your body telling you to change, 

It’s ok if you as a man let it on the couch, or as a couple it was on the couch, then you gotta move forward get it off the couch, ask yourself why it was there, and truly if it really belongs there. 

Guy’s if you are married, and you have been unhappy for a long time, or felt less than you truly want to change it and do better and have a better marriage, then get the past off the couch, after all it’s your couch!

Come home from work, make it a point everyday when you walk in that door to look at your wife or girl and say hey babe, how was your day. 

Is it going to immediately improve your marriage, hell no! Is it a small win, that will pay dividends over time from days, to weeks, to months, absolutely. 

Is it a presence your wife will feel, and want more from you? Yes!!

Get the Past off the couch tip number 2!

Arguing about household chores, or the kids? Be mindful and say I’m not going to be arguing about this crap, I’m gonna be the leader, do it, or get up and say hey babe, I got you, what do you need!

Is there an ugly past you need to heal? There really might be, sure, a lot of times that can be true, infidelity, arguing, anger, name calling?

The truth is that stuff might still be on your couch, if it is, work together, get it off the couch. 

If you put something on the couch that didn’t belong there (yes men, I am talking to you), ask yourself why or how it got there, take the L, and get it off. 

Also please do not go out to buy furniture or a new couch, thinking that will make your relationship better (although I heard there is a sale at Ashley’s). 

Guy’s if you want to make your marriage better I highly encourage you to check out my Service for men who want a better marriage. 

It’s a service about getting to know exactly what you want, what your day to day and marriage really looks like and taking the little simple actions to do better every day so you can truly have an awesome marriage or relationship. 

If you’re a couple reading this, or would both like to sit on my couch, for couples counseling…Sweet we go through a very similar process. You can click here to read more about it. 

I’d love to hear your story click here to send me an email and schedule a free consultation.