Dating: Enjoy Your Actions Not the Outcome
Let’s be honest guys, if you are reading a blog post like this, it’s because you are not enjoying something in your dating life, relationship life, or even just have something in your life you want to work through.
When I got started in the world of self-help and personal growth, it was because I wanted to do better in my dating life, which is why I usually lead with that. But for you it could be anything that brought you to a blog post like this.
This blog post is going to focus on those who are single and dating, and having you enjoy the action you know you really want to take. Why should you enjoy the action you really want to take? Because you’ll take more of it and enjoy your dating life.
So, if you are single and dating, I want you to ask yourself one question, what is the action I really want to take?
Is it just calling that girl for a date. Is it just being able to up to a girl and express how you think she is really cute, hot, or the hottest girl in the bar. Is it being able to just smile and wave. Is it offering to buy her a drink?
Is it calling that girl up you went out with once or twice, are thinking about it and really want to see.
Is it making sure you go for that first date kiss?
I write these blog post, because I remember exactly how much pain I was in, and how much swiping and scrolling I did to cope with that pain, rather than just take direct action that gets me the best and direct results possible.
How do you want to enjoy your dating life?
If the answer is, “Well I want to be with someone I really like,” I’m sorry, but that is the wrong answer. How can you enjoy your dating life, if it is dependent on an outcome. I can’t enjoy posting these blog posts, if I need this to get 100 views.
And you can’t enjoy your dating life, if you need someone, or want some. You can enjoy your dating life, if you are content and happy with your actions.
If you really want to make the changes in your dating life you’d like to, you can do it. Why because we are talking about action, not outcomes.
You can do it, how do I know? Because you are already reading a blog post like this, which means you are already ready to do it.
You don’t have to stop yourself anymore. Next time you go out, tell that cute girl she is really cute, and ask for her name, then just zip it.
She’s either going to say
Oh thanks, I’m Jessica, what’s your name (possible interest)
Thanks, smile and turn away,
Either way did something bad happen? The answer is of course absolutely not. Not only do you get to enjoy your actions, you get to enjoy how you feel after, which we both know is pretty good.
You can call that girl you went out with a week ago, or a few days ago, and tell her you really want to see her again.
Once again nothing bad will happen either she’ll say,
Great, let’s do so and so day
Oh hey, (slightly akward conversation), and I’m not sure can I let you know
Or she doesn’t answer.
I repeat, once again nothing bad will happen, and you get to enjoy the action of you doing it, rather than suffering from the inaction of not doing it.
What about that first date kiss
Once again, she will either kiss you, or not. I’ll repeat the argument one more time, nothing bad happened. Also a kiss is just a kiss, it’s not a decloration of love, just be a man of action and go for it.
It will feel a lot better to go for it, then to not go for it after, and if you are reading this blog post, then you definitely know this.
Worst thing that ever happened to me on a first date kiss, was the girl just saying, “No, no, no, kiss.” I don’t know why she even texted me after, but we never went out again, she told me she had no interest.
That is my most embarassing first kiss moment, and look nothing bad happened.
If you enjoy taking action, you get to take more of it, like writing these blog posts.
Rejection isn’t bad, it’s just a no.
But if you still really think a feeling of rejection is more important than the feeling of action, I can’t help you.
Besides rejection isn’t bad at all, it’s simply being told no (just in different ways, as listed above). What makes it bad is all the things we feel, and tell ourselves leading up to it.
The emotions we feel before we go up to that girl we like, or the overthinking about going for that first kiss.
Then rejection just serves as a re-enforcer to not do it again, so you can avoid that feeling.
But let’s be honest, that feeling will creep up again
How will creep it up again? Well, the next time you go out and see that girl you want to talk to, and don’t. It creeps up with go talk to her, followed by doubt, and uncertainty.
It creeps up again, when you are feeling anxious about calling a girl for that first date, again.
And those thoughts about if the girl likes you on a first date, and will kiss you back creep up again.
The only thing that puts out that feeling is repeated, consistent action, just like these blog posts and YouTube Videos attached.
The only thing that makes it more fun, enjoyable, and better to start this therapy service is the discipline to just post the content, the good, the bad, and the ugly.
See guys, your dating life is meant to be enjoyed
So I want you to ask yourself. What actions do I need to take, that would help me enjoy my dating life?
What actions am I not taking that make me not enjoy my dating life?
I’m starting a business, I’m no different, the actions that make me enjoy my business are posting these blog posts and videos.
Why, because action means progress.
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If you are single and dating and want to download the How to Match with and Date Your True Ten Dating Profile Checklist You can do so below. It is the exact profile with each picture included and prompts I used to match with date, and be with my true ten.
Each picture comes with a detailed article (and prompt), about how I took this picture, why it works for a dating profile, and how you can do the exact same, you can download it below.
The Ultimate Dating Profile Checklist
