Dating: What is a High Value Man?
by Joseph Gherman
What exactly is a high value man? Or what exactly is high value? Is it status? Lifestyle? Steak? Money? Is it being a gentleman? Is it being an OG?
To be honest, in the dating world, I think it’s neither of those things,. But let’s just say gentleman is the closest of the three, simply for being a gentleman.
Here’s my truth guys, a high value man is this, a man who goes for what he wants and does not think twice about it. Whether it’s in his dating life, his relationship, or even his marriage.
Here’s the Real Life Example
In March of 2023, I made a big mistake, although it was a hilarious mistake, which I’m thankful for. I believed that I was going to have a High-Value Dating Profile, and suddenly have a “High Value,” dating life.
I was even told I was, “High-Value,” Oh my god, I was lied too.
Guess what, I wasn't high value, at all, and neither were my actions Despite a dating profile that gave me a lot of matches and dates with lots of hot girls, my actions and dating life were not a high value, they were a disaster.
A high value man is not somebody who posts dating profile pictures of him hanging out in the city, when he has no desire to go to the city, or eating steak at a steakhouse he has no interest in, and with people he really has no desire to be around.
That’s actually the profile and actions of a low-value man. Someone who is pretending to be someone he is not, just to say he went out on dates with a lot of pretty girls. What’s the point of these dates if you can’t even be yourself? What’s the point of the date if you can’t even girl a good time.
So, what exactly is a High-Value Man in Dating
Come on guys, you know the answer. A high value man is dating, is someone who speaks his truth when he sees a cute girl at the bar and says, "You’re really cute, what’s your name (in your words of course)?”
So what would your own version of high value be when see that cute girl and go up to say hello?
A high value man does not play games when he wants that next date with a girl he likes and has been out with once or twice, he goes for that date directly. He calls her or texts and says (in his words), “Hey (insert name). You know I was thinking about you…”
He waits for a response, and says, “I had a great time the other night. I'd love to see you again. When are you free?.” He doesn’t suggest dates, he tells her he wants a date with her!
Lastly when a high value man is on a date, he doesn’t care how hot she is, he cares that he wants to kiss her. His actions are more important than his uncertainty, that’s no way to live life guys. A high value man simply takes action, he goes for that kiss, even when rejection is possible.
Look guys, let’s keep it real.
Being a high value man is not easy. It takes guts to go for what you want. It takes guts to tell that girl you think she’s cute. Especially in a day and age when most people are content to resort to their phone as a coping skill for their struggles in dating, I know I did.
It takes guts to call that girl you really want to see again. But guys saying that girl she’s cute and calling that girl are actions. And if you ask me, actions are way better than simply thinking about it.
Besides guys, if your goal is to truly be a high value man, then you have to define what that is for you. If you are reading this blog post, I hope our values are the same, to a man of action.
You can’t become high value and enjoy your dating life by sitting on the sidelines. That’s not the way to live no matter what your goals are.
In order to become something, you have to do something.
I want you to enjoy your dating life, not swipe and scroll through it.
Just like this business, I’m not going to enjoy it, if I’m not taking action, thinking about what I should do next and fretting over views and website traffic.
You're not going to enjoy dating life by simply relying on a phone. And you really won't enjoy it if you are not taking the action you are thinking about, so go out there and do it.
Ask that out you’ve been thinking about, always go for the kiss on that first date, sometimes hardest of all, tell that girl at the bar you think she’s really cute (I know it’s hard but do it)!
Once you get used to taking action, you’ll get immune to the rejection, the awkward moments, and the slip-ups. Eventually those emotions do simmer down, but only if you give them a reason too.
These videos and blog posts are all about growth.
I have to grow in my business, and want you to grow in your dating life. I can only grow in my business if I take action just like you can only enjoy your dating life with action.
I can’t grow or enjoy this business by waiting for the perfect blog post or the perfect video. Some will be perfect, some rather imperfect.
Some girls will say yes to that date, that number, and a kiss, some won’t. What’s more important the results, or your actions?
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