How to Fix Your Dating Life By Owning it?
by Joseph Gherman
What it Means
It means if you are not enjoying your dating life, there is a reason why. I’m sorry to say but that reason starts and ends with you.
If you want to enjoy your dating life, you have to own why you aren’t enjoying it now, and what you can do to enjoy it.
By the end of this blog post you will be inspired to take the action you know you want to enjoy your dating life.
Let’s keep it real for a second.
We are no different. I need to grow my YouTube Channel. I have to own the simple action I need to take with YouTube, which for me is just posting everyday.
I also have to own it is going to suck to post videos, I will have all sorts of feelings about, like not being good enough to post this stuff. I have to own people who will have opinions, some videos won’t be good, and some they’ll be mistakes.
But that’s not what I choose to focus on. I choose to own the action I need to take to grow the channel. I choose to own the simple, the action, not the opinions of others. I want you to do the same in your dating life, own the action.
If you want to enjoy dating, then you need to own why you aren’t enjoying it first.
I want you to ask yourself, are you enjoying your dating life? Let’s be honest guys, if you came to a blog post like this chances are the answer is no.
Do me a favor, don’t answer that question with, “This girl I went out with ghosted me,” or “This girl said this, or said that.”
I’m sorry guys, it’s your dating life not theirs. You're the one reading this blog post not the girl you went out with and didn’t call you back.
It’s your dating life, not her dating life.
Ask yourself this question. Why aren’t you enjoying your dating life?
Is it because when you go out, you can’t seem to talk to the girls you really want to talk to?
Is it because the girls you really want to go on that second or third date with don’t call you back for that second or third date?
Is it because things fizzle out after a few dates with girls you really like?
Are you not enjoying your dating life because of a lack of matches and likes on your dating profile?
I get it guys, I have been there for all of these, that’s why I write these blog posts, so I can share my story, and help you write yours so you can enjoy your dating life.
What actions do you need to take to enjoy your dating life?
Once again guys, it’s your dating life, your dating profile is just a part of it. It’s an ingredient for your dating life, not the whole meal.
If the answer to the question above is you need to take new pictures, then okay fine, but are you willing to go take them?
What about the real stuff that is simple, but just feels emotionally hard like going out and just talking to girls?
What about just going out more with yourself, or with your friends?
If you just went out and spoke to a few girls how would you feel about your dating life?
Do you need to just bite that bullet (the first bullet sucks) and ask that girl what her name is?
Do you need to just tell her she’s really cute?
Do you need to just say, “You’re cute, what’s your name?”
If you took these actions, would you enjoy your dating life more?
You know these actions are simple, but can emotionally suck, but tell me, would they not get easier to do once you did the first few reps?
Tell me once you see yourself doing nothing bad, and over the course of time, it just gets easier to do, wouldn’t you just keep doing it?
Tell me, if you went out and asked one, two, or three girls for their names, and numbers, would you be proud of yourself?
If you are reading a blog post like this, I really hope the answer is yes.
Here’s the cool thing
While the beginning does suck, eventually it just becomes a natural part of who you are. Don’t let what is really simple, but emotionally hard, ruin your dating life. I want you to enjoy your dating life.
Tell me guys: Wouldn’t you really enjoy your dating life more if you were able to do this consistently? I think you would, and I think if you are reading this blog post you know you would.
Ask yourself this question, if you just went out, simply spoke to a few girls, told them they were cute and called it a day, would you have fun? I hope the answer is yes, now ask yourself why? I hope the answer is, “Because I did it.”
You have to take action consistent with your goals.
If you really want to enjoy something, and make progress all you really need to do is take action with it; whether it is your dating life, or growing a business.
You just have to say hello to that girl, I just need to make YouTube Videos.The more you enjoy your dating life, the better you are going to be at it, and the more fulfilled you’ll be.
You won't enjoy anything if you don’t take action. Why won’t you enjoy your dating life if you don’t take action, because you aren’t making progress. If you aren’t enjoying your dating life, because of the action you are not taking, then you need to start taking it.
That goes for any part of your life, it just so happens this blog post talks about dating.
Look I’m going to be honest
I met my girlfriend on a dating app, she’s my true number ten. But more importantly I met her when I was enjoying my dating life. I might have met her on a dating app, but I wouldn’t be with her if I wasn’t enjoying my dating life.
Why would I not be with her if I wasn’t enjoying my dating life? Because I would not have been confident to be with her, like having the confidence to go for that first kiss.
I worked hard to overcome a time I wasn’t enjoying my dating life, so I could enjoy my dating life. I gave the power to someone else, a quick fix dating profile coach, who had me convinced all I needed was a good profile and I’d be golden.
I did do all that, and guess what, no matter how many matches, and dates I went on with really pretty girls, I didn’t enjoy anything, because I wasn’t owning my dating life, or taking the action I needed to enjoy it.
That’s why I started this business, and these blog posts, so you can enjoy your dating life.
I want you to match with, date and be with your true ten, just like I am. As a therapist, I am all about growth and change. I use all of the information from that, “Dating Coach” as the details needed to help you with a great profile.
But the honest work to enjoy your dating life is on you. It’s up to you to go out and speak to girls. It’s up to you to decide what exactly is progress for you.
Is it just saying
hi?
Is it telling a girl she’s cute?
Is it asking if she’s a teacher?
Is it just looking at her and smiling?
Or is it telling her she’s cute and you want to know her name
You have to decide the action you need to take to enjoy your dating life. You are deciding what is progress for you. Look, here's the opinion you did not ask for.
It is going to be really hard to enjoy your dating life, if you are just looking for a dating app to match you with that hot girl, go out with her, and hope she sticks. I’m sorry, it’s my opinion, but that is no way to enjoy your dating life.
In my opinion enjoying your dating life means taking action you can take, day in and day out. It means owning your dating life and the actions you need to take.
If you are someone who is content to swipe profiles, scroll instagram and YouTube Channels for dating app hacks, then I can’t help you.
But if you want to do good honest work on yourself, I can totally help you, but only if you want to help yoursef.
You have to decide what actions you need to take that would have you going home smiling after a nice night out with yourself.
As a therapist, and as a coach, this is exactly how I help you. We pick out the actions, and you go out there and do them.
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