What if You’re not happy

by Joseph Gherman

What it means?

Those are similar to the words I said nearly four years ago. I was on the phone with a friend saying that about my eight-year relationship.

Once I said those words, I knew my world changed, and it was time to do something different. This is exactly what I want for you, if you are not happy with something in your life, and reading this article, I want you to do something different.

Whether it is something massive and decisive, or just little routines and actions you can do every day. If you are reading this, I want you to ask yourself, what are you really noy happy with and more importantly, what are you willing to do different?

Let me keep it real:

As I start this business and hammer out routines, blog posts, videos, and a book, and push myself I noticed I was becoming a miserable bastard. Slowly, I’ve started to come out of it, by figuring int out. I had to significantly slow down how I do things. How I write these blog posts and make content, and work on a book.

But that’s my story, and not so important right now. What I want to know is, what’s your story? What are you not happy about? And what are you willing to do differently?

Are you not happy with your health? the shape you’re in? The fun vacation you want to plan? Is it school, work, career, a business, you aren’t enjoying or is it you're dating and relationship life?

I write these blog posts to show you can make the changes you need to enjoy the part of your life that you aren’t write now, just like I made the changes I needed to enjoy my dating life.

You can grow and help yourself through anything

But only if you want to. Only if you are willing to do something different. Let me ask you this. Now, that you know you aren’t happy with something, what are you willing to do differently?

Are you willing to go to the gym? Go for a walk at lunch? Change your diet slightly? If you’re not willing to make these changes, I probably can’t help you, and you definitely can’t help yourself.

Are you willing to save extra for that fun vacation you want to go on? If the answer is yes, then do it, do it now.

Are you willing to sit down and work on something you need to work on for work, school or your career (like me being willing to sit down and just type this blog).

Lastly, are you willing to change something in your dating life, your relationship or even your marriage?

Are you willing to stop swiping profiles, and go out more, and just talk to one girl (as hard as it may be). Are you willing to do something different like giving your girl time and space when she is out with her friends? Are you willing to come home, be nice, sweet and kind to your wife?

Here’s the truth

You can only grow and change your story if you are willing to take action, new action, new routines, and face the music, as crappy as it may be to do it. I want you to change that I’m not happy with, I’m doing it and making progress by taking action.

Look personally, I can write these blog posts all day, but that video above it, is really how I grow. Why? Because it’s uncomfortable, to do it over and over again, but I know slowly it helps me build and reach an audience one person at a time.

It’s easy to not take the action we need to, we don’t feel like talking to that girl, so we say, “She’s talking with her friends,” or “I need another shot.” It’s easy to not work on our marriage and be a better husband, by telling yourself, “Your wife is a bitch.”

It’s also easy to yell, scream and become overwhelmed when your girlfriend is out with her friends, or away for the weekend with them. It’s hard to say to her and essentially yourself, “Babe, have a good time.”

Action does not guarantee you get there today, but it does guarantee success, because no matter what you did something and made progress, even if you figured out what doesn’t work.

I write these blog posts and make these videos

To show you guys, it’s not just growth that is possible, it’s enjoying the process, and progress you are making that is possible.

You can enjoy becoming a better husband for your wife, it’s simple actions. You can work through feelings of insecurity, anger, or even jealousy in your marriage or relationship, and you can even work through inaction and frustration in your dating life.

It’s just a matter of what are you willing to do differently and how often are you willing to do it?

If you like reading these blog posts, and videos.

You can subscribe to my free email newsletter. I email these out weekly, as I share my story, and encourage you to not just share yours, but change yours. You can subscribe below.

https://blog.datngandrelationship.services/mens-dating-and-relationship-blog

If you are single and dating there is a bonus for you. My Dating Profile Checklist. It is the complete profile I used to match with and date my true ten and finally enjoy my dating life.

Each picture has an article with it that explains how each picture is taken, why it’s taken, and how you can take the same exact picture and prompts for you and your profile. You can download it below.

https://blog.datingandrelationship.services/the-high-value-diy-dating-profile-checklist