Why You Have to Wait for the Date?
If you want to go on that date, you have to wait.
Guys it’s very simple. You have to have infinite patience, whether it is in your dating life, your relationship, or your marriage. Infinite patience means you will wait forever; it’s a useful tool in more than just the dating world, but today’s blog post we’ll take a look how it does play out in the dating world.
If you want to finally date your true ten, and start to enjoy your dating life, you have to wait. Today’s blog posts is all about the importance and attractive behavior of waiting for her to get back to you.
Let’s be honest guys, we have all been there and done that where the girl says she’ll call you on such and such day, and a few days go by and she hasn’t. It sucks. We really want to go out with her and feel rejected when she doesn’t call back.
Here’s the deal, sure you can call her a day or two later, after she says she was going too, but the reality is you are just being impatient, and that is not attractive. And if you are not demonstrating attractive behavior, then the chances of you going out with her, are less, if at all.
How do you think the girl feels?
Let’s put the girl’s hat on for a second. She wants to make sure you can keep your cool if you don’t hear from her, and not someone who is marking the calendar days until you are expected to hear from her.
She wants to make sure, if she does wait a day, two, or even three or four, you are not going to give her crap about it. She wants to see you are patient. She wants to make sure you are not in a rush, just like she isn’t.
Why does she want to make sure you are not in a rush? Because her feelings are not in a rush, and she wants to make sure your feelings aren’t too.
She wants to also see what's out there, after all she is dating too and make sure you can wait. Let’s be honest as guys, we are probably way quicker to engage our emotions in dating then they are.
What if you call or text her? What will she think?
What do you think she is going to be saying to herself if you do call her or text her even after she didn’t get back to you when she was supposed to? Is she going to say, 'Oh thank god, he got back to me, I forgot, I really want to go out with him.’
Or is she going to be thinking, “Oh my god, I didn’t get back to this guy I met once, or twice (if at all), and he’s already texting me, doesn’t he realize I’m busy.”
What do you think she is going to be feeling when you do text her before she has?
Is she going to be feeling eager and excited to make plans with you because you did reach out or is she going to be annoyed that you just couldn’t wait. Guys if you are reading a blog post like this, I hope you know the answer is choice two, she’ll be annoyed.
Here’s what it really says about you when you are okay with waiting.
It says you are cool, calm, collected, and can keep it together, which is a very masculine behavior and traits. No girl wants to be on the date with the guy what called them back because they went a day, two or even longer, because they didn’t call them back when they said they would.
I know it sucks to wait for who knows how long until they get back to you. I know it sucks to wait when you really like that girl and you're left wondering if she will even text you at all. But if you want to enjoy your dating life, and date your True Ten you have to wait.
True Ten Story:
My true ten took three days to get back to me when she said she would. By the time she did get back to me our next date wasn’t until a full week later (I know an eternity right).
I had to wait an extra week to see her, but guess what, that feeling when she finally did text me was so worth it. Why because I liked her, and we made plans, I had something to look forward to.
It was another successful rep of the behavior of waiting. The more I waited and the better I got with it, the more my insecurities and neediness were no longer going to get the best of me, and I could overcome them. Those feelings are always going to come up in dating; you have to outwait them.
Also, guess what, it was easy to make plans with her? Why? Because she had reached out to me. If I would have reached out to her first, it might have been, I don’t know I’m still busy at work. Then how would she have felt? Maybe overwhelmed or annoyed that she had to answer a guy she went on one date with when she was just busy at work.
Maybe she would have felt so annoyed, we never would have had that second date. Good things happen when you wait, period.
Guys want to date, and so do girls
Girls also want to go out and enjoy their dating life. So, if you went out with her once, and gave her a good time, there is a good chance she would call you again, especially if she said can she’ll let you know.
They just need a little more time to think about that area of their life, they are busy they have jobs, careers, families, friends.
The reality is early on in dating it is totally normal as guys for us to like that girl a little more than they like us. So because we do our emotions are just more engaged. They just need a few extra days on the house before they start thinking and feeling about their dating lives.
Why I write these posts.
Look guys, I write blog posts like these, because I have more than been there and done that with over-texting, and not waiting.
I write blog posts like these to share my dating successes and failures, so you can learn from them, grow, and enjoy your dating life just like I got to, and date your true ten.
Now what if you are about to burst:
I don’t recommend this, but here it is.
Wait a week, maybe even two weeks. Of course your best bet is to just wait, but if you are dying just give her a call. The only thing I will add is you may or may not go on a date, but you are not going to raise her attraction by not waiting.
But if you insist, if you are going to call her, here a couple of rules to follow. The longer you wait the better. Why? Because it gives her more time to think about you and get in contact with you, which is a much better position to be in.
It’s also likely she is dating around too, and you kind of got to give the other guys time to mess up and over pursue or go on a date with a guy where she did not have as much fun as you.
If you are going to call, be decisive. State your intent, call her, don’t text her. Don’t be that guy that says, “Hey What’s up.” Be the guy that picks up the phone and says, “Hey I want to see you, when are you free.”
If you are going to text, just say a simple Hey, how are you, and then get right to the point. Say hello first, once you get that response, you are in the game, get right to the point and make plans.
Don’t forget it’s still most attractive to just wait.
If you do call her first, all you are really doing is just maybe getting a second date (or third, or first). There is more to be gained by just exercising your emotional muscle of waiting.
You have more to gain by waiting. Let’s say she says to three guys, I’ll call you on Wednesday, who do you think she is going to go out with, the one who waits!!
Look it’s not easy, but getting to not just learn to wait, but getting used to the emotional muscle of waiting will eventually have you enjoying dating, and on a date with your true ten. My hope is you get to be with your true ten, that’s what this business is all about.
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