How to Grow? You Have to Own it
What is means?
Yesterday’s blog post talked about the little things you have to do day in and day out. Not just to see results and make progress but also to build your confidence.
So before you do those little things, and make sure you are doing them each and every day. We have to know one other thing. What is our starting point?
Let’s Keep it real
Knowing exactly where you are starting from can suck.
If you want to lose 10-20 pounds, knowing the exact number you weigh might be a real bummer. Seeing that exact number can be a hard bullet to bite (no pun intended).
Besides getting in better, or great shape, there are other parts of our lives that might also suck when it comes to biting that initial bullet.
Such as saving for that fun vacation, growing in your career, or business, or even where you are in your dating life or relationship. .
I get it guys thinking about exactly where you want to be, and realizing you are not there yet can suck.
Here’s the good news.
Once you have that goal in mind, and know exactly where you are starting from, that’s it. You bit the bullet, realized where you’re starting point and can start taking action towards the goal in mind.
But as usual, there is always risk.
What is that risk? That risk is urges and being able to overcome them. Let’s take a look and see how urges get in the way of walking the path to our goal that we have in mind.
We spend money on things we shouldn’t.
We eat and drink more than we should.
We go a few days without studying, or blogging (my personal example), o
We don’t call that girl we want to go out with.
We don’t say hi to that cute girl we see out.
We get impatient with our girlfriends, and call or text more than we should.
When you do succumb to an urge, you might be real hard on yourself.
You might have to bite that bullet again. Not because you messed up once, but because you likely beat yourself up too much, and lost focus on on your goal.
For a Personal Example:
In eight months time, I have to take my Clinical Exam for Social Work. I’m not there yet, but every day I take the action necessary to move closer to it. For me that action is simply studying for thirty minutes a day.
Once you know your starting point, you focus on the little things you do, day in and day out that take you closer to exactly where you want to be.
It’s not easy to hop on that scale. it can feel dejecting, when you see that number. There is a lot of judgment you can cast on yourselves.
It’s not easy to realize how much is saved for that fun vacation. It can feel more pressure than fun to plan, save and even think about that vacation.
I also get it, starting a business, advancing your career can feel like a mountain that just keeps getting bigger and overwhelming.
When it comes to our dating lives, realizing that we don’t have the type of relationship we really want can have you wanting and willing to do anything to numb that feeling.
It can have you scrolling on social media, swiping dating apps. It can have you smothering your girlfriend too much. It can have you being angry at your wife. These are exactly the kinds of things we do when we don’t like where we are right now.
What’s more important, the emotions we feel? Or the actions we take?
I certainly hope if you are reading this blog it is the latter.
I want you to know you’re starting point. If you do you will keep yourself accountable in your actions, emotions and focused on your goal.
Knowing your starting point will also have you more likely to do the little things you have to do every day to make progress toward your goals. As someone who is growth oriented, and working with me, that is exactly what I want for you.
I want you doing the little things you need to reach those goals.
I write these blog posts because I want you to achieve the growth you want to. As a therapist and a coach, it’s my job to guide you along the way in that growth.
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