Guys: You Can’t Take Yourself So Seriously

These blog posts are about personal growth. They include how to go slow in your journey of growth and enjoy it. Today, I’d like to talk about the importance of not taking yourself so damn seriously.

I get it guys we all have goals, and we all want to reach them. If you are reading this you are probably into self-help, personal growth, and self-development, like I am.

You want to get in great shape, go on a fun vacation and weekend getaway. You want to grow, advance your career and make more money. And chances are, you likely want to experience the type of dating and relationship life that you never thought possible.

Guys, I can assure you this. You will likely feel a lot of pain, friction, and resistance along the way of your growth if you are taking yourself too seriously.

• Ask yourself this: Isn’t it easier to say to that cute girl at the bar, “You’re really cute, what’s your name.?” If we just didn’t take ourselves so seriously.

• Isn’t it easier to go to the gym, eat right, and call it a day, if you take yourself less seriously. Isn’t there a lot of pain associated with being consumed by being having the best diet, results, and workout possible, and wanting a near perfect body.

I achieved success, when I took myself less seriously.

When I finally got to achieve the success, I always wanted to in dating, it was because I took myself less seriously. I finally arrived at indifference! I went on dates, had fun, and called it a day.

I went up to girls, told them they were cute, asked for a name, and called it a day. If they were interested, I got their number.

Now, I have the cutest one of all now, my true ten but that’s for another blog post.

How it plays out now?

I have to take my own advice and take myself less seriously. I can’t be so serious about blog posts, and YouTube videos. That’s only going to cause a lot of pain in writing and shooting them.

I want you to be able to pursue all your goals and dreams, and at the same time not take yourself so seriously along the way. Otherwise, that’s not fun. That’s painful.

Sometimes the men I work with are taking themselves a little too seriously. That’s why they feel pain in their relationships, their marriage and their own desire for personal growth and achievement. I get it.

• You might feel the pain of when your girl chooses to spend a night, weekend, or a vacation with their friends.

• Sometimes you might feel a lot of pain in your marriage, because your relationship with your wife is not what it once was.

Ask yourself this: If you took yourself less seriously, what would you say to your girl, when she went away for the weekend: Would you say, “Have fun babe (of course with a big smile on your face).” Would you be able to go away yourself with your friends.

Would you be able to get lost in your own hobbies and interests. I get it guys we can feel a lot of pain, unwanted, and not chosen. That’s where taking yourself less seriously comes in.

We wouldn’t feel that pain, we’d feel indifferent. Because we do take ourselves a little more seriously than we should we do feel that pain.

If you were married for ten, fifteen years and you truly wanted to be a better husband and have a better marriage; what would you say to your wife to acknowledge it, and say you want to work on it. All while the same time not taking this problem and yourself so damn seriously.

Chances are you would smile, be cool about it and say something like… “Honey, I know our marriage was better a year, or two ago, (or before whatever happened). I want to work on it.”

You can own exactly where you are, want your growth, and not take yourself so damn seriously along the way. If you are going to walk the path of reaching your goals and growth, you might as well walk it in peace.

What I want for you?

I want the men I work with to experience the joy in life, not the frustration of an insecure relationship, unhappy marriage. I want you to experience all of the growth you want to in your career, financially and in your personal life.

We all have challenges to navigate, and goals we want to achieve. I want you to navigate them. I just want you to be able to navigate those challenges in a way where you are not taking yourself so seriously along the way.

Guys, if you are going to be on the journey of personal growth, self-help and development, you might as well enjoy the journey along the way.

As a therapist I help you relax, enjoy the journey and take yourself less seriously. As a coach I work with you to pick out the actions, and plan needed along the way for you to meet to grow every way you want too.

Whether that growth is in your dating life, relationship, or marriage.

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