How to Improve the Skills You Want to Work On?

The detail is in the skill

So yesterday, we talked about the behavior being the skill, whether that behavior is going to the gym, saving some money, starting a business/career or our personal lives (in this case dating and relationships).

Today I want to move it forward with diving a little into the skill, which we’ll call the detail.

Ok, so I’ll go first

If my skill is going to the gym, then one of the details I am always trying to maximize is how long I am on the stair-master. Some days it’s 30 minutes, some days it’s 40 minutes and some days it’s even 50 minutes. Sometimes the details are in how many calories I am trying to burn, or even my posture. But enough about me fitness routine, I’m not exactly The Rock.

So ask yourself

If you had to pick a detail for the skill you want to work on, whether it’s going to the gym, saving money, a career, or even your dating and relationship life, what detail would you want to add in and focus on? Would you focus on taking some awesome dating profile pictures, would you focus on not being angry at your wife, or would you focus on your health, career, or even personal finance.

If you’re focused on…

You’re health, then that first detail might just be going for a 15 minute walk at lunch, or after work, or even before work. If you’re focused on saving for a fun vacation, the detail might be when you want to take that vacation, or how much you want to save a month for it. If you’re focused on growing a business or career, the detail might be in finding out where you want to allocate more of your time too.

For Example:

My skill is in blogging, it’s the behavior I target and two details I really try to target is writing what is in my heart (why because I know what I write about is shared human experience), and the time I do it (Drafting and working on it 7am Monday to Friday).

Don’t Forget Our Personal Lives

Our Personal lives can be our friends, our family, or our dating and relationship lives, whether we are single and dating, in a relationship or married. The detail is in the skill, which could be how many girls you go out and say hello to or the amount of detail you put into having an optimized dating profile. If you are single and dating I have a specific service I do offer here.

The detail might be in what you say when you do talk to that cute girl, “That looks pretty good, what are you drinking,”

Personally I love this one cause it’s a good way to gauge interest (friendly and turns toward you, interested, turns away and a simple answer, not interested).

Or maybe your a little more bold and the detail is, “You’re Cute What’s Your name.”

For my Married and Relationship Guys…

The skill could be not getting angry, being friendly and always being loving and cool. The detail might be when you walk in that door, “Hey babe, how was your day,” Then it goes back to the skill, which is simply shutting up and listening.

The skill might be Not getting angry, not losing your cool. The detail could be, “Look I know I’m getting angry, so let me just walk away for five minutes.”

Another really good detail might be just honing on when you are not going to lose your cool, no matter what when I walk in the door and get home until dinner, I’m not losing my cool.

Yes I know, that’s a low hanging fruit, I won’t get angry from when I walk in until when I eat, but hey, you got to start somewhere.

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