How to Learn it,Copy it, and Own it.
By Joseph Gherman
Let’s keep it real. The inspiration for this blog post comes from me starting and growing this business. You see, I’m not an entrepreneur or a content creator, I’m a therapist, well by trade at least.
But still, I need to learn about and come up with web-designs, free pdf’s and all sorts of techy stuff that I really have no idea about. Now, just because I don’t know this stuff, doesn’t mean I can’t get some inspiration and knowledge from the people that influenced me, and helped me grow.
Let’s take a look at exactly how this played out in this business, using those same principles of learning it, copying it, and owning it can help you in your dating and relationship life.
So where did this come from?
I want to give credit where credit is due, a huge influence in my growth as a person, and in dating, and relationships is Corey Wayne. He’s not just successful in his dating and relationship life, he’s successful in his business. So why not, just copy his website.
So when it was time to make my own website banner, I simply started by copying Corey’s. I learned through a few google searches how to start a Canva document that resembled Corey’s website. Specifically I wanted to copy (just for creativity) the site header.
A site header is the space that appears at the top of the website on all pages, usually including links to an about page, contact me page, and services pageNext I copied a similar Canva template with a light blue beach background, similar to what appears on Corey’s website.
I even copied where his logo appears.
Corey’s Website Banner.
Then I copied his text, and where the text is laid out in the template. I even copied where the pictures were on the website header. Then I simply made it my own.
Not too bad if you ask me.
Own it
I used my own pictures, my own custom Canva template I picked for the beach (after all I do like a fruity margarita), and my own pictures that represented my values, and things I love (example the beach, fruity drinks, and cruises).
**Fun fact: I don’t love the beach, but I do love a fruity cocktail on one. Now let’s move on to you. Now how does this idea of learning, copying, and owning it play out in the world of therapy and your dating and relationship life? Great question.
You’ll learn exactly why you feel the way you feel.
For example: I know I feel scared, shy, and embarrassed, when posting videos. I try not to care, but still it can be hard to not feel judged. If you are single and dating, you might feel a fear of rejection, because you want to avoid those emotions, of fear, shame and doubt.
If you’re in a relationship you might feel needy, jealousy, insecure, or even angry. You feel things emotions because you fear that when your girl or wife does go to hangout with her friends, she might not want to hangout with you anymore.
If you’re married to your wife you might feel angry, because you see a lot of her behavior, and things she says, “Bitchy. Behavior.”
Maybe your pain with marriage is more feeling sad and depressed, but with yourself, because you don’t love your wife like you used to. You know it’s true and it hurts. You also feel a lot of pain because you don’t know what to do with those emotions and thoughts. .
Here’s how we work together.
You copy the things you say in the room, because the things you say in the room (the therapy room), are your truth.
It’s my job to just be present with you, listen and ask a couple of good quality questions, the rest is easy, it’s just a question of you being you, and copying the things you say.
If you’re single and dating you might have to copy: “You’re cute what’s your name?” or
“Baby, let’s do dinner this week, what day is good for you. (applies if you are dating and on the first few dates)
Or maybe you are married or in a relationship and have to apologize, or own something you did or said you know you should not have.
“Babe, I’m sorry, I was an asshole.
I help you copy it, own it, and repeat it, until it just becomes a natural part of you.
Guys, we copy all the time.
I’m sure me and you both have copied a worked out and changed one or two things over the months or years, and just have our own gym routine.
Maybe you’ve copied someone else’s advice on personal finance, and made it your own, to fit your bills, your plans, and your fun vacations.
As you just saw, I copied a whole website banner. x
You guys get the point. Copy the things you say in therapy, because that is your truth. I help you get there, and you practice owning it. Until it just becomes who you are.
If you’d like to learn more you can read more about my services below.
Therapy for Men in a Relationship: https://www.datingandrelationship.services/therapy-for-men-in-a-relationship
Therapy for Men who are single and dating: https://www.datingandrelationship.services/therapy-for-men-single-and-dating
Therapy for Men Who Are Married: https://www.datingandrelationship.services/therapy-for-men-who-are-married
