Single and Dating: How Bad Was Yesterday?

Apr 11

Let’s keep it real and share where the inspiration from this blog post came from. You see, it came from my professional life. I decided to change the website around. I changed the color, the logo, the banner, everything, and while it looked cool, it really was a disaster!

Now I did learn some cool graphic design skills I really liked; I also realized it was way too much. My girl said to me, "Joe, this is a lot.” Guess what? She was right. In that moment, and for the rest of the night, I was embarrassed and ashamed.

My website went from a simple cream yellow and white background to a travel agency and DELL commercial all wrapped up in one. Not good!

So today, I woke up and asked myself, was last night really that bad? Of course not. Why? Because I will fix the website. Me fixing it is just a part of the path I am on in this business. It is just another day where I choose to navigate my emotions and actions to make progress.

That’s why I write to and work with men, who are dating, in a relationship, and married. Because I had to figure it all out as well. I had to work through that challenge. Now I’m just working through the next one, this business.

Look, it wasn’t that bad yesterday. I’ll be fine, I’ll change the website back to Hulk Hogan Colors (the Red and Yellow, just not his yellow), okay you get the point.

I’ll also keep writing blog posts and making videos. Now back to you guys. If you are single and dating, I want you to ask yourself, Was Yesterday Really that Bad?

If you are single and dating

And upset about how a date went, you might just laugh about it, and say okay, I’ll do better next time. Maybe you were on a date with a girl, and you didn’t go for the kiss. If you woke up still feeling the pain of last night, it’s because it’s been happening a lot lately, and you want to change your story.

Or maybe there just haven’t been that many dates and you realize that not kissing that girl feels like damn, that is awful, how could I not kiss her, I blew it.

I’ll share with you this funny story. On my first date after an eight-year relationship, the girl came back to my house. I knew what was on the table, but I sure as hell didn’t act like it. I felt nervous, and acted like it was my first day on planet earth.

I didn't kiss her; I played heads up with her and watched the Bengals and Dolphins on Thursday night football.

When I woke up the next day, if I had asked myself, “Was yesterday that bad?” The answer definitely would have been oh my god it was awful. As a matter of fact, it was. She still actually texted me the next day despite it appearing I was more interested in her knowledge about Joe Burrow then her interest in me. Why did she text me? Because she still had some interest in me.

But guess what? I managed to chase her out of my life by over-texting and being needy, what a disaster. Do you know why? Because to me, our date the day before the was the worst day ever and I had to fix it by confirming she still liked me.

I want to add a little caveat here. It was my first date after just ending an eight-year relationship. And that girl was back at my place! Do you know why I’m sharing that with you? Because if you are reading this, you are enough!

You have natural innate abilities that make you truly you, and nobody else. Those natural innate abilities will help you work through any challenge, whether it’s getting in great shape, a fun guilt free vacation, starting a business, or dating your true ten!

You just need some knowledge to go with the natural abilities you have, and so that’s where I come in, as a therapist, and as a coach. I give you the knowledge you need in your dating life, and a comfort and security to do those uncomfortable but important actions.

Now back to that old question,

“Was Yesterday That Bad?”

If you went out with your friends, how’d it go?

If you went out with your friends, and saw one or two girls you really wanted to say hello to but didn't, how would you feel the next day?

If you still feel that pain, feel annoyed, or just are replaying yesterday in your head over and over again, it’s because then maybe yesterday was that bad.

Maybe yesterday was that bad, because you’ve been trying to change your behavior for a long time when it comes to talking to girls but haven’t.

Chances are if you did go up to three, four or even five girls (you are awesome if you did), you would not feel the pain of one girl you didn’t. As a matter of fact, I truly believe if you went out and confidently talked to three girls yesterday, you would not be reading a blog post like this.

I get it, you are reading a blog post like this because you want to change your behavior. And also believe that reading this blog post will help you change that behavior. The truth is it will increase the desire, but only action, repeated and simple action, will create and change that behavior.

You might be feeling really tired of that painful feeling of inaction. That inaction could be dragging on for months and years and feels like you are paying interest on high APR balance on a credit card or carrying extra weight you have that you don’t want to.

It feels harder and harder to break that inaction, that pattern, and the emotions you feel around your dating life feel worse. The things you tell yourself when it comes to your dating life get louder and louder, taking up a whole lot of room in your head, which really affects how you are enjoying life.

Guys, I get it, I once felt the same exact way, that’s why I paid someone a whole lot of money for a quick fix dating profile, hoping to take that pain away. The cool part is that by paying that money, I got a whole lot of information.

And while I will never share that man’s name or business (that’s not just who I am), I will do everything right by you with the information I did learn and my love of personal growth and passion as a therapist.

That’s why I started this business.

That’s why I choose to work with guys just like you reading this blog post. Because I was once that guy reading a blog post like this.

If you are single and dating, and feeling the frustration of it, I help you overcome the flaws you have, and work with you to make the progress you want to make. I work until you are not just successful in your dating life, but enjoying your dating life, then it’s time to get out of my (virtual) therapy office.

Here’s how.

By reading this blog post, I am giving you access to my free DIY Dating Profile. It’s the exact profile I used to match with, date and be with my true ten.

The profile explains step by step how to take each picture in a way that makes your dating profile awesome to not just the Dating App, but also to the girl swiping on it as well.
That information is the information I paid a whole lot of money for.
The step by step guide is how to take each picture for you, so that it is truly awesome for you, not a cookie cutter and one size fits all approach
You can download it below.
https://blog.datingandrelationship.services/the-high-value-diy-dating-profile-checklist

If you’d like to work with me, we’ll navigate your dating life with direct and simple actions. We’ll figure out your strengths, what you’re doing well, and make sure you are doing more of it.

We’ll also figure out exactly what you need to make progress on and make that progress in a way that is comfortable, natural, and even therapeutic for you.

After all, I am a therapist.

Whether it is that first date kiss, asking her out for the next date, or just saying your version of “You’re Cute, what’s your name.? We’ll figure out exactly what you do well and what we work on.

If you are interested in working with me directly you can email me here for a free consultation. Simply leave your contact info, and I will give you a call the next business day to set up the appointment for the free consultation.

You can email me below

Contact | Start Your Journey Today — Joseph Gherman Therapy Services

If you’d like to read more about my therapy service with men who are single and dating you can click the link below:

Single and Dating: Therapy and Coaching Service — Joseph Gherman Therapy Services

If you’d like to download my free DIY Dating Profile, you can click below:

https://blog.datingandrelationship.services/the-high-value-diy-dating-profile-checklist