How to Solve Your Problems in your single dating life?

Whether you are single and dating, in a relationship or married the problems and pain you feel did not arrive overnight. Likely they have accumulated for months, and even years of frustration, inaction, and just crappy unpleasant feelings.

For you to expect to solve these problems with a quick fix is not just unrealistic it’s unsustainable.

With that in mind, I want to focus on my friends who are single and dating and common problem many of us have, approaching girls in real life.

That anxiety you feel is real

If you are single and dating, that anxiety you do feel when you want to talk to that girl likely did not just get to you overnight. It’s likely been there for years, or if you are lucky, maybe just a few months.

To a certain degree we all have that anxiety before we make up our minds, and take the action to talk to that cute girl. Bu either we choose to take action, and preferably a simple action. Or we let that anxiety consume us and force us into inaction.

Here’s how you work through it

You have to understand what that anxiety really is. That anxiety is a fear, that you feel pain. It is a fear you feel rejection. it is a fear that you just are not good enough to even go up to that cute girl. But here is my thing, you are good enough. You are good enough to take that decisive and simple action to say you’re cute, what’s your name. Because quite frankly if you were not good enough, you would not have stumbled upon a blog post like this.

Let’s face it guys that anxious feeling did not get there overnight, it’s accumulated within you for months or years. Night out, after night out, and weekend, after weekend. Along with that anxious feeling comes behavior that keep us from taking action, like drinking more to numb rejection (liquor courage), or just saying, “Never mind I don’t think she is interested.

If you are single and dating, you solve this problem, one day at a time. That is it, one approach at a time, and most of all one, “You’re cute what’s your name at a time. If you are willing to go through that moment, that uncomfortable feeling each day to solve this problem, then my friends six months from now, you will be doing it, growing, more confident, and best of all without that intense anxious feeling.

Here’s an important disclaimer.

That anxious feeling you feel before you approach a girl is totally natural. It’s also natural to feel a little a little bit of embarrassment after. What is not natural is wanting to avoid not going up to her. It might be easy to not go up to her, but it definitely isn’t natural. Why isn’t it natural? Because you want to. That pain you feel that angst, that anxiousness is you saying I want to, but this emotion and my doubt and uncertainty is stopping me.

Guys I’m sorry but there is no quick fix.

You either want to be reading a blog post like this six months from now or you don’t. You either want to work through it or you don’t. If you don’t want to work through it, that’s okay, you are just not ready yet. But if you are ready feel free to contact me for a free one on one consultation. It’s a chance for us to hangout (virtually), get to know each other, hear your story, and see if we are good fit to work together.

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