How to Try Something Simple and Hard for 30 Days?
So where did this come from? Well, it came from this blog post. That no matter what, I was going to push myself to write, publish and email a blog post for thirty days. Now it also came from dry January. For those of you not familiar with that, it means not drinking for the entire month of January.
The two immediate takeaways for both.
Urges:
When I first embarked on dry January, I noticed a very strong urge during NFL Wild Card Weekend. When my cousin opened the fridge and I saw those Truly’s and White Claws I immediately wanted to grab one. I noticed a physical sensation rising in my body which peaked in my chest and it was not good. But that was just a bad moment, I noticed it, stuck to it, and rode out that urge.
Three weeks later, while hanging out with the same group of friends, when that refrigerator did open the urge was noticeably less, and minimal. Did I notice the White Claws? Absolutely. Did I want one? Absolutely? But did I have that physical sensation, that was as noticeable as three weeks ago? Nope. I just noticed, looked, wanted it, and that was it. I moved on.
2. Growth
Now when it came to blogging, I really wanted to grow with it. Blogging became a habit it became a skill and after three weeks I was ready to take the next step. What is that next step? I knew all along it was YouTube, and now I’m ready and proud to have this be the first one. I had a different type of urge. An urge to grow this habit, and expand it.
I want to push you to grow. Whether it is in your dating life, your relationship, or as a man.
Ask yourself, what you can try that is simple, hard, and important to you for 30 days?
If you want to get in better shape, can you walk on that treadmill, go on that Stairmaster, or the elliptical for thirty days. Can you do it before work, after work, or before bed? If so, what time, can you definitely be in the gym? or on that piece of cardio? Go do it!
If you want to go on that fun vacation, can you save five percent, or ten percent of your salary this month? You might not be able to go this month, but ask yourself, if I save five percent of my salary just for this vacation, can I go in six months? Maybe it’s yes, or maybe it’s no. Ask yourself, can I definitely go on it in a year? Then do it.
Look either way a year is going to pass, might as well be on that fun, awesome vacation, then saying to yourself I wish I did save that money and put away for it, because I’m still thinking about going, but can’t.
If you want to ask your career or start that business ask yourself, what do I need to do? Do I need to study for that test/certification for thirty minutes a day? Do I need to update my resume and apply to jobs? Do I need to start a blog, post content or enroll in a course? Do it for thirty days. This blog and business started from me putting pen to paper for 30 days, if I can do it, you can do it.
If you are single and dating, I want you to ask yourself, “Can I ask a girl, “You’re cute, what’s your name?” If you can, awesome. If not, what can you do, can you say, “Hey your cute,” or just look and smile, please for the love do something, don’t just complain about it! Ask yourself what can you do? Ask yourself which one of these are you comfortable with?
If you’re a man who is married or in a relationship, and want your wife or girlfriend to really love you, ask yourself, can I walk in that door, and just say, “Hey babe, how was your day?” If you do this then great, if not then do it. If you do it, can you ask it, and just listen, and say “Really, tell me more?” Can you just listen to your wife or girlfriend, and give her your time, attention, and presence when you walk in that door for the next thirty days?
Ask yourself, can I do this simple action? If the answer is yes, then go do it.
I want you to try that simple action you know you can do, and you know is also emotionally hard, like saying hi to that girl, getting up for that early morning workout, saving that money this month and also, being nice, sweet, and kind to your wife or girlfriend.
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