Three Simple Ways to make Dating Better for You.
Let’s get right into it, chances are if you are on this page, you’re either single and dating or a friend of mine. So, chances are if you’re here because you are single and dating, it’s because something is just not right in your dating life. You feel a certain amount of frustration that just wears heavy on you. Your emotional thermometer in this part of your life, might be really high, and you want to change it, feel good, and call it a day.
You might be swiping and boosting on dating apps more than you want to. You might be replaying (and not from a red challenge flag) that date with that girl several times, and even thinking about if you should call that girl you went out with once or twice because you really had fun with her (spoiler alert, if you’re thinking about it, you should probably do it).
Here’s the good news, if you are on this page, it means you are thinking about it, focusing on it, and ready to do it, ready to make a change, even if it’s just the littlest and smallest one to start out with. Don’t forget simple actions, mean simple changes. Simple changes over a long time equal big results.
Here’s The really good news
Everything I describe above and in this article. I’ve been there and done that. As a matter of fact, now that I think about it, I’ve been there, done that, and won the trophy. That’s why I got started in this business to pay my service and coaching forward to all the guys like me. And while this business is now a part of my experience, it also can be a part of your story.
So tell me, what are your struggles? What are your fears? Because together. especially as a therapist, and as a coach, we can overcome it. You already got started on it, by reading this blog post, and even thinking about it, all you have to do is keep going, and it starts with us figuring it out.
As a therapist, I help you work past those fears, and struggles, as a dating coach, I help you figure it out, by being direct, and decisive, but most importantly, direct and decisive for you.
Being direct and decisive is one of the things, I took away from my favorite book, which I learned so much from, Three Percent Man By Corey Wayne (like a good student), it’s important to cite my work, and his work had a huge influence on my life. It would not be fair to you the reader if I didn’t cite my work. Now back to you.
Back to those Three Tips
Tip Number One: “You’re cute ,what’s your name?”
First of all, for some odd reason, it is incredibly hard for me to always type correctly the first time. “Your,” and “You’re” but I digress.
Why is this so important? Because it’s direct and decisive and right to the point. For you it’s not about what their response is. The truth is their response will very, very likely, be wow, thanks with a smile, I’m so and so, what’s yours. (favorable), and possible attraction”? Or their other very likely response will be, “Jessica, thanks.” and they will call it a day (and to be honest, if that is their response), so should you).
But what’s more important their response (which let’s be honest, does not seem so bad either or. OR…Is it more important to be direct, decisive, go for what you want, and call it a day. Is their response more important? Or is it more important to do this little thing repeatedly, so that you can grow and develop into your own words of being, direct and decisive.
If you are here, chances are you agree with me, the being direct, and decisive is most important.
Tip Number Two: Always go for the Kiss.
“Fuck it, go for it.” That’s something I heard the other day from a client, and I really loved it. Why? Not because it was something earth shattering, but because it was his words, and him working through it in that moment. Guys, when you go for the kiss, they will either turn the cheek, or kiss you back. I promise you nothiing bad will happen.
Funnily enough I shared with this client a disaster story I had a few years ago on a date where I got rejected, here’s the cool thing about that story and moment, nothing bad happened, and now look I get to laugh at it and type this blog.
Here’s the truth: There are plenty of times, I went for a kiss, and it’s been a disaster, but more importantly, I last cheek I turned, was the best one yet, she’s my true ten. So, guys, fuck it, go for it
Tip Number Three: Make the call and ask her out
This can be a hard one as well as well. If you are reading this, then I’m sure you have felt nervous, flustered or second guessed yourself as to if and when you should call. There are also probably emotions you have felt, that are high and even overwhelming around making this call. Or even worse, you tell yourself how they feel, almost as like a script or a line, without it ever being said. You make up their truth, without ever hearing it straight from the source.
Here’s the cool thing, as a dating coach, I’ll work with you on when to call and what to say. Spoiler alert, it’s going to be direct and decisive, “You know I’d love to see you again, when are you free?”
Why, “When are you free?” Because it puts the ball in the girl’s court to either make the date with you or flake out. Either way, it gives YOU the answer YOU need. This prevents way from wasting your time, energy, and even worse emotional battery thinking about this girl. We’ve all been there and done that, and it sucks.
While as a dating coach I work with you on the logistics of when to call and what to say, as a therapist, I also work with you to push through that wall of fear, and doubt.
My goal as a therapist is to make these actions repeatable and simple for you so that you can master this part of your life, enjoy it, and move on.
Guys if you read this and its hits home
Then, that is truly awesome, and I hope we get to work together.
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