How to develop your habits for success in dating?
To keep it real this came to me yesterday when on a little date with a certain special someone. I no longer wanted a drink with our food (alcoholic of course), it was so minimally desired, if at all. Now not only did my mind, body, and wallet thank me I got a good lesson about behavior and habits in real time, my behavior of not drinking all January was starting to become my habit.
When we think about it aren’t the behaviors the backbone to our success and reaching all our grandest goals and dreams in life. Isn’t it the little things we do day in and day out that eventually just become successful habits that take us to where we want to get to in life.
In this blog series we’ve discussed the desirable behaviors if you are single and dating, want to go on that dream vacation, advance your career, and also have a fun, romantic, and loving relationship with your wife or girlfriend. From “You’re cute, what’s your name, to saving money, to studying for that test, to being fun, sweet, kind and loving to your wife or girlfriend. These are the behaviors we’ve written and read about to help us shift our frustration to success and pleasure.
These behaviors boil down to the simple actions we know we have to do to get what we want, reach our goals, and feel happy and success in life.
If you are single and dating
Then you know you need to be able to have that habit of walking up to that girl and saying YOUR version of, “You’re cute, what’s your name? Why do you need to? Look do you need to? No. Should you? Yes! Because chances if you are reading this, you are frustrated with your dating and romantic life. So take the action to remove the frustration, and have that action just become slowly engrained as a behavior, a habit, simply a piece of who you are. Because what you are doing, is becoming your best and most confident self in dating.
Taking that action is simply navigating the emotions and thoughts that make it hard, and complicated to do so, as a therapist, I help you navigate those, we all have them. As a coach, I hold you accountable, come up with a plan. And as a therapist and a coach, I help you come up with a plan of action to have these words and actions be exactly you.
Here is where growth, and habits interact
Once you have that engrained habit of, “You’re cute, what’s your name.” You have to call her to get her out on that date. You have to navigate the emotions of nervous, fear and feeling of possible rejection, and disappointment of what happens if this call doesn’t go well, or she doesn’t answer. Well ask yourself this. What’s more important, I called and said, “Hey I’d love to take you out for a drink, when are you free.?” Or all those thoughts, and emotions I mentioned above.
You are not just changing the behavior that will ultimately make you successful in your dating life, you are developing the habit, and growing that habit. It is no different than the habit of blogging I developed and growth I am experiencing now with YouTube. I drove the behavior of blogging, developed it into a habit, and now I’m growing it wiIth YouTube, if I can do this in my career, you can do it with you’re dating life. Why? Because I did it too!
Our success is driven by our behavior
Changing our behavior drives our success, but more importantly, it’s that when that behavior becomes the habit, like going to the gym, saving money, expanding and growing our career, and our dating, and relationship lives, that we really start to see the difference. That’s because slowly, our desired behavior has become a habit.
Here’s my question to you guys
If you could walk up to any or most girls you see when out at a bar, or nightclub, and say, “I got to say, you are really cute. What’s Your name?” Would you not feel successful, just a little bit. If you knew you could just ask for that phone number, would you not feel good about your dating life. And if you knew could call any girl and ask her out on a date, would you not feel great about the direction your dating life is headed in?
If the answer is yes to all of these, I’d love to work with you.
If you are single and dating
I’ve completely given away the exact six pictures I took to match, date, and now be in a relationship with my true ten at the links below. These pictures completely shifted my dating life with more options. I want you to have them for free as a supplement to your dating life, because I want the action you take to drive your success. So here you go.
