How to Use A Burner Phone to Date Your True Ten
Guys, let’s be honest, if you’re on a blog post like this, there is a good chance that something is not right in your dating life. Your dating life probably isn’t fun or enjoyable. You might even feel angry or frustrated.
I get it. When it comes to feeling like your dating life is less than what you want it to be, it can really suck. I know what it’s like to spend more money on boosts and memberships than you really want to, and even quick fix dating coaches.
Today’s blog post is for those in the online dating world who find themselves a little bit frustrated. Today I’ll share with you the crazy way I used a burner phone in online dating to match with and date my true ten, and how you can do the same.
The Burner Phone Resets Your Dating App Score.
If you are reading this, you either have never heard of using a burner phone in online dating, or have some familiarity based on the amount of information out there on dating apps and profiles.
But just so we’re all on the same page, I’ll explain it from the beginning, and why it is important for your dating profile and algorithm.
Have you guys ever noticed your experience on a dating app is more positive and usually best when you first sign up for it (usually the first 30-60 days)? Why is this? Because the dating app wants you to have a good experience, as well as the girl looking at your profile, so your profile has to be tested by the dating app.
The dating app wants you to have a good experience, so you spend more time and money on it. The app will feature your profile more in the beginning. It wants you to have a good experience with matches, messages, and dates- boosting your profile so to speak, without you buying the boost.
Second: The Dating App also wants to see if your profile is good, and if it should be featured more or less. Why does the dating app want to see if your profile is good?
Because it wants the user (the girl) to have a good experience. If a girl is swiping ten profiles and she is saying no to all of them, then she is not going to spend a lot of time on the dating app, that means less money for the app, and a worse experience for the user on the dating app.
So What Happens Over Time:
Over time, as more people join the dating apps, and as more time passes, your profile naturally gets lost in the shuffle- other profiles join and pass your profile in “Score” (it happens to the best of us). New profiles are created, and the app likes their profiles more because the girls are swiping right on those profiles more.
Think of it as aging (most things don’t age well). Your dating profile is not meant to age well. But if you take care of it, and nurture it with awesome pictures and prompts, you can keep yourself and your dating profile in great shape (yes I know it sounds like a lot, but it’s true).
You take care of it with great pictures and good prompts (the things you can control). The app also picks up on how many girls match with and message you. Now I don’t know this last part to be true but I do believe, (especially with A.I), the App’s intel knows when girls give out their numbers and make dates.
The Burner Creates a Whole New Dating App Persona:
Your burner includes the following things: a new email, a new number (use google voice), and a new device. You see, the dating app has your number, email, and even your phone attached to the dating app score. The burner phone you use for online dating is not just meant to create a new profile, it’s meant to create a whole new trail of data associated with you.
I want to make this perfectly clear, if you don’t take new pictures, and make sure the score of them is at least a six on photofeeler.com, this is not going to work. Why a score a 6.0? A 6 means the girl says yes to the picture, get six yes’s and you got a match (put the highest scored picture first).
You also need to delete the old/current dating profile, before you launch your new profile on the burner phone. This is very important! The burner phone method will not work if you have two profiles going.
When you buy the burner phone, I recommend a galaxy or an android (something simple- just make sure it is new phone as you don’t want to use a device someone already used for dating apps).
** NOTE: Buying a New iPhone will not work, your APPLE ID is also attached.
Next, once you have the burner phone, you create with it a new email, and new phone number (use Google Voice), as most dating apps do require you to register a phone number. You’ll use this new email and new phone number to sign up with the dating app.
You really should take the six pictures below in the date your true ten dating profile checklist; at least I highly recommend it. These pictures are all tried and tested in my own life, and as I like to say, if I can do it, so can you. You can download it below.
https://blog.datingandrelationship.services/the-high-value-diy-dating-profile-checklist
Next: You are now going to set boundaries.
So you got the burner phone, waited patiently to take all new pictures and of course you did it with the checklist above, great now what? How do I get to date my true ten? Well, it starts with boundaries.
You have to leave that phone at home. Why? Because I want you to enjoy your dating life, not look at a burner phone with dating apps on it waiting and checking for the next message, match, or like.
Because soon you’ll want more notifications and hotter and hotter girls. But you can’t just keep wanting more, without being willing to do the work. By leaving the phone at home, you accept the present situation. Instead of wanting more, you accept what you have in matches, dates, and messages. You start to feel like you have more, not less.
Personal growth and reaching your goals occur through actions, movement, and discipline, not constantly wanting more. In order to get where you want to be, you have to first accept and enjoy where you are at. Simply leaving the phone home forces you to accept the present status of the profile and your dating life, and shifts your mind to enjoy what you do have.
Check it once a day and that is it. By checking it once a day you are completely changing the way you look at and feel about your dating life.
Guys, answer me this. Do you think you are going to feel good and enjoy dating more when this phone is with you, and you’re checking it to see your next message from that girl you are messaging on it?
Or, are you going to have more fun and enjoyment by checking it once a day, seeing a few notifications, and seeing that the girl you are interested did message you? If you are reading a blog post like this, I certainly hope it’s the latter.
Last: It demonstrates different, attractive and interesting behavior.
Let’s think about it from the girl’s perspective. A part of being able to enjoy your dating life means you have to accept that the girl’s interest and attraction to you is just as important as your interest and attraction to her. Setting boundaries with your phone naturally demonstrates attractive behavior. Here’s how:
When a girl is on a dating app and messaging others, let’s say five to ten guys (btw ten is really high), she is usually only actually interested in somewhere between one and three of those guys. You are being totally different by only answering once a day and at the same time of day, almost like a routine. You are conveying you have purpose, direction, and a life.
You also aren’t “Playing Games” which isn’t natural. You know the games I’m talking about like, “Ok she messaged right away, so I can message right away, or I have to wait a few hours to reply since she waited a few hours to reply.” Guys, come on, I want you to enjoy dating and be yourself while doing it, not counting the hours until you can message a girl on Hinge.
Also remember when I said when her interest is typically in one to three guys on a dating app? You are being different than the other guys she is interested in: you’ll be talking yourself into a date, while the other guys will eventually talk themselves out of it.
That one message a day is almost like a renewal of her interest, oh he’s back. She will feel good, and interested. That is the most important thing when matching and messaging a girl…interest, not attraction. You want her interested in a date with you.
The real life example
When I sent my once a day 5am message to the girl who turned out to be my true ten, she said something that showed me she noticed, she said, “Oh wow, another 5am message, so mysterious,”
By only messaging once and doing it the same time each day, and making it a part of my routine, I was not just standing out with the one message a day, I was standing out with when I messaged her (sidenote, it was just because I wake up early, and the gym opens at 6am, but you get the point).
Later on that week, she said, “Great, now I have to wait another 24 hours to see when you’re free”
Why did she say that? She said it because she noticed something, was interested in a date, and probably a little bit frustrated she knew it would be 24 hours before I would respond. You want to draw her interest, and what better way then doing it in a way that is naturally you.
Here’s how it played out
I did message her 24 for hours later and we made plans for the next weekend, went out, and had a great time. We hung out two weeks later and again had a great time. The rest is history. As I continue to share my story and develop my work, you’ll read another blog post or chapter, as in how to date your true ten, and then how to be with her.
For now, I write blog posts like this and share my experiences in dating because I’ve been there and done that with dating apps. I’ve felt the frustration, and maybe even anger. I also got to experience the success story and want the same for you.
As a therapist and as a “Dating coach,” I have some knowledge on dating apps from my experiences. The cool thing is I get to share my story with you, and hear yours, and help you create your own.
My work as a therapist is with men who are single and dating, in a relationship, and married. If you’re single and dating, I help you match with, date, and be with your true ten.
If you are in a relationship, I help you enjoy it, and if you are married, I help you work through the pain you may feel in it, decide what you want to do, and guide you along the way.
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