How to Use a Plan to navigate Dating, Relationships, and Personal Growth

So, here I am at it blogging away at 7am, despite waking up a few minutes late for the gym. Today I overslept, and only could give myself 30 minutes on the stair-master. The reason why is simple, I have to blog at 7am

I told myself during this undertaking that I would form a habit, blogging everyday for 30 days. The truth is some blogs are better, and also I apologize for that, as I always want to give you my best. 

At the same time, me giving you my best also includes me keeping it real, a little bit with what is in the here and now in my life, especially for this simple reason. Yes my business is about helping men in dating, relationships, and marriage, but more importantly I want to completely help those men grow in such a way that they can work through any challenge after. 

So let’s get started

Whether you are trying to get in great shape, save for that awesome vacation, start a business, or build an awesome personal life in terms of dating, relationships, and marriage, when you are facing a challenge really helps. 

Earlier this week, we spoke about the importance of the behavior of the skill, whether it’s working out, saving and investing, blogging, or taking dating profile pictures. If you are facing these challenges, a plan will really help, here’s how. 

First: A plan helps you stay disciplined, and stick to it. 

In the dating world, a plan is when you are going to that behavior to move you forward, whether it’s calling that girl up you want to see again (yes please call, and don’t text, if you are initiating the plans)

A plan is also deciding when you are going to take dating profile pictures (for instance maybe you’ll be taking your steak picture at the Capital Grill in Garden City this Saturday. 

A plan is also what you are going to say, when you are out with your friends and see that cute girl you really want to go up to. A plan includes when you are going to go out, where you are going to, and how you want to move your life forward. 

As a therapist, I help you have a plan

As a therapist, I really love what I do, I love working with clients, through their pain, and helping them come out of it, but you have to feel your pain, understand why, and then move forward with it. 

Whether you are single and dating, and want to make your dating profile great, I help you come up with a plan with what pictures to take, help you with the details, and more importantly, how to have fun after and participate in life. 

If you are in a relationship, and having a whirlwind of emotions with a girl you really like, or love, we’ll come up with a plan to help you not just navigate those emotions, but decide when to ask her out again, and when to back off. 

If you are married, we’ll come up with a plan for you to have you at your best, when you feel your wife is angry, bitchy, or just not in love like she used to be. Our plan is all about turning your marriage around. 

A Plan is really a day, time, and place, to practice the behavior. 

Most importantly, a plan is really when you are going to practice and repeat that behavior, and that skill. I know exactly when I’m going to be taking those dating profile pictures, I know exactly when I’m going to go to the gym, and I know exactly when I am going to work and type out this blog. 

Having A Plan for You Might Include

Deciding When you are going to go out this weekend and ask a few girls out: Deciding when, where, and what you are going to say. 

Single and Dating: It might include: Making a Reservation at your favorite restaurant with your friends, to take a steak picture. 

In A Relationship: It might include, backing off and waiting a day or two, or a few hours before reaching out to your girl, not acting on your emotions. 

Married: It might include practicing the skill, the behavior of just coming home and being friendly, “Hey babe, how was your day?”

A Plan should include: 

A plan is really all about having a day, a time, and place to practice the skill, the behavior you need to practice and want to work on to implement and move your life forward, past that challenge that is bringing you pain. 

Then once you repeat that behavior, that skill, you can keep practicing, refine your approach and your behavior, just like this blog. Is it perfect? Nope, Did I execute my plan? Absolutely. Will this blog and the frequency of posts look differently a month or two from now, absolutely. 

So Guys, Make a Plan to work through your challenges: 

Without a plan, you are just going to fly by life in the seat of your pants, with scrolling, and swiping, and frustration, and emotions. Plans equals progress. 

If you’d like to reach out to me and work together, you can contact me here.