Men in A Relationship: What to do when your girl is on vacation?

If your girl is on vacation, be ready, those emotions you feel will be amplified. That feeling of not being enough, is surely going to creep up, especially in urges. And most of all that urge to text her for a weak reason besides your own insecurity in that moment is definitely going to come up.

Look if you are reading this, and found yourself in a predicament like this, I get it. I’m lucky I love my girl, when she was on vacation, did I not feel a certain way at times? Hell yeah I did. But guess what, just texting her based on those feelings, was not going to make my relationship any better.

I’m sorry but the cold, blunt truth is when she is on vacation, or that girls trip, you have to CHILL THE F OUT. For no other reason than when she does call or text you it will be because she is thinking about you, misses you and wants your time and attention. 

Come on guys, what is better? To have your girl call or text you because you texted them, and they are simply responding to a message from you on their phone machine? Or is it better for them to be reaching out and saying, “Babe, I love you, I miss you, I can’t wait to see you”?

I can assure you, I have been there with those emotions, and they suck. That feeling sucks, even that physical sensations. That constant phone checking and touching, it sucks. Don’t act on it! Ride it out! Be attractive, be your best, not someone who wants validation and reassurance in a moment. 

Let’s also keep it real for one minute, we all have that little fear, that little doubt inside that we are not enough, whether it’s in your fitness goals, financially, your career or business or even your personal life (which is what this blog primarily focuses on). 

Let’s really keep it real, if you knew you were enough, and your girl loved you, would you be worried? Would you have those  feelings (both physically, and the emotions) that are causing you pain, and angst? Absolutely not, you’d say I hope she’s having fun, and can’t wait to hear from her when she has a few minutes and wants her man. 

I get it, it’s hard but remember guys, a common theme we have to work on in our growth is understanding the behavior is the skill. That behavior, that neediness, that challenge we are working through, that is the skill. The behavior is waiting and not acting on that urge.

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