Men: What is Valentine's Day to You?
Is it a chance to do something fun, and buy that nice bouquet of flowers?
Or is it, some obligatory, “I guess I’ll do it (holiday).”
Or even worse is it, “Just a made-up holiday.”
You see, one thing I learned in this four-year journey is that love is a gift; whether you are dating, in a relationship or married for ten years.
And yes, to be literal for one minute if you are just dating a girl even for a few dates, a few weeks, or a few months, it might not be love yet…but you get the point…anyway.
And guys I have to ask, what is so bad about a day in the calendar that is carved to show our wives or girlfriends that we love them? An opportunity to give that gift of our love.
What is so bad about your girl, wanting your time, attention and love she desires from you on this day? Even if it’s just roses and a fun place to go eat dinner.
You might be saying, what do you mean the love she desires from her man?
You might even be reading this and going, “But dude, “My wife doesn’t desire my love, she is just a bitch,” or I don’t know why my girl does things like that?”
Before we get to the reason why your wife is a bitch we have to acknowledge a couple of things.
You’re the one reading this blog, not her.
She wants you to be the man you can be, that is why she is with you.
So, guys, do better, do better today, tomorrow, own it, acknowledge it, deal with it and do better.
The rest of the blog post is exactly how to do better.
And look, if you don’t want to do better, it’s okay, it means you are not ready yet, come back when you are.
But, if you want to do better, then keep reading.
How do you do better?
Give her the gift she wants, not just the roses, but give her your time and attention, each and every day.
1. When you walk in that door, smile, greet her.
In your own words, and voice, “Hey baby, how was your day?”
Then, you have to just be quiet and listen.
When she is done talking, “What else, tell me more.”
a. Just keep listening and genuinely caring
b. It will go a long freaking way!
2. Hop in that kitchen, help out with dinner, dishes, the kids, anything.
a. Pause, if you are thinking, but I worked hard enough I should be able to come home, sit, and watch football, guess what you can, kind of…
b. If it’s Jets, Dolphins, and the NFL on Prime, and you’re a fan of either team I get it, if it was Giants Eagles I’d be doing the same thing.
c. Disclaimer this is a joke, with an element of truth, anyways.
By hopping in that kitchen or partaking in the house, you are not being a maid, you are simply helping out and being attentive to her.
3. Take her out to dinner, drinks, a show
a. Do something fun, once a week or even twice (whenever).
b, Ask yourself, what’s your wife’s favorite restaurant?
1. Then take her there.
Ask yourself: Where do you want to go?
1. For example, if it was me, I want to go see live music.
2. Plan a date you’d like to go on to. It’s ok, just take her out!
3. Treat her as if you are just dating her for the first few weeks or months.
a, Don’t let the romance die.
If you are ok with letting the romance die, then why are you in this relationship?
I certainly hope you don’t want to let it die and you want to experience love and joy in your relationship, that is why you are on this page.
Guys: Chances are, if you are on this page you do want to do better.
Whether you want to find happiness in your marriage, feel better and enjoy your relationship, or want to enjoy being single and dating.
I meet you exactly where you are, and start from there.
I want to know where you are, what pain you are feeling, and where you want to be.
Then with simple actions, I’ll work with you to get you there step by step.
You’ll go from being angry in your marriage to loving it. From being needy, jealous, and even arguing with your girl to loving every minute of your time together.
You’ll go from dating and frustration to dating and confidence. .
Together we’ll go from being in my therapy office (virtually), to out of it and enjoying life.
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The free consultation is simply a chance for us to hang out (virtually), get to know each other, and see if working together is a good fit for us both.
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