Men’s Therapy and Coaching: Do the little things repeatedly

Aristotle once said, “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence therefore is not a singular act, but a habit.” 

That’s why for me blogging is so important, it’s the habit. It’s the repetition of putting pen to paper that one day will move this business forward. It’s also the repetition that keeps me wanting to grow. “

To keep it real

The pain I felt when I had basically stopped blogging for the last few days was real. I lost an identity, and a confidence that I was moving this business forward. 

Like I had said before, do I want to publish a blog everyday, email it, and post it on instagram? No, that is way too much to put on my plate right now. 

But everyday, I sure as hell do want to put pen to paper (a repealed act), draft a word document (another repeated act), and when it is ready post it and publish it. 

But that’s enough about me

I want to know from you guys what is it every day you know you have to do to move your life forward? Because let’s face it, the goal of therapy and this service is to do exactly that. 

If you get one thing from this blog post today, I’d like it to be the answer to this question, “as this question, “What do I need to do every day to move my life forward?”

Is it a workout? Run? Go for a walk? Cook my food for the night before. 

Is it being nice and friendly to everyone I see and encounter, so when I go out, I can say to one girl, “You’re Cute, What’s Your Name?”

Is it spending thirty minutes writing out a list of jobs or careers you are interested in?

Is it spending a few minutes studying for an upcoming test?

Guys I’m sure you know the answers exactly to either of these questions? So go do them. If you take nothing, and nothing else from this blog post it’s that you needed to do exactly what you had to do today. 

I want you to ask yourself one more question?

Why do you have to do these things repeatedly? Is it because you want to keep the habit, develop the habit, build it and grow with it?

Is it because if you are single and dating, six months from now you don’t want to be reading blog posts like this? You want to be out there enjoying your life, talking to girls with confidence and not worried about your emotions. 

Is it because six months from now you want to just be able to say yes to that fun awesome vacation?

Is it because six months from now you want to make sure you are prepared as hell for that test you have to take, have that job you want, or are closer to getting that business you want. 

Is it because six months from now you want to get out of therapy and enjoy your life?

Look as a therapist for men, and as a coach, here’s what I want for you. I want you to understand your pain, and why exactly you feel that pain. Then I want you to do the little things everyday to work through that pain. 

Whether those things are coming home to your wife, or girlfriend and saying, “Hey Baby, How was your day?”

Whether it is developing the habit of just saying hello to any girl you want at a bar, then growing it into, "Hey I think you are really cute, I’d love to take you out for a drink.”

Hints for both, Shutting up and listening, are a big part of both of those examples above. First listen to your wife or girlfriend and be present. Second, I'd love to take you out sometime means, the girl is either going to say, “Yes or no.” It’s time to listen, 

Guys if you did like reading this

And want to speak with me about something bothering you in your life, a pain or a frustration, as a therapist and a coach, we get to the bottom of it, then we figure out exactly how to solve it. 

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