Single and Dating: What do you Really Want?

Guys, let's be honest. If you are coming across a blog post like this, it’s because something in your life is not exactly how you want it. 

Let’s be honest, not only is that something not how you want it, but it’s also causing you a lot of pain, overthinking, and emotional distress. Maybe your marriage isn’t exactly how you want it, or how you ideally see it. Maybe your relationship is not how you want it, and maybe your dating life is definitely not how you want it. 

In my experience as a therapist, when we feel the pain of something not being truly what we want, it’s because we are taking actions that just don’t feel right. We are not being congruent with acting and living how we are really thinking and feeling.  

Let me take you back to a time in my dating life where that happened to me.  

At some point in my dating life, I was so frustrated I paid a dating coach for a quick fix dating profile (along with eight other strangers) a whole lot of money. I wanted matches, dates, and to feel good about my dating life.

And while that program and person definitely did fix my dating app algorithm, he didn’t fix me, not even close. You see the truth is because the only person who can really fix you, is you. 

But let me tell you one thing: I am not a victim, not one bit. I got a whole lot of laughs and learned exactly the purpose I have to fill in my life. A therapist who helps men be their best when it comes to dating, their relationships, and their marriage.

You see, what I really wanted was to grow in dating, I wanted to grow in a way where I was more confident. I wanted to be able to just kiss girls on dates (without overthinking), call them up and ask them out again, and say hello to the ones at bars I thought were really cute (I probably wanted that last one more than anything else). 

I wanted to do the work on my dating life to be great. Eventually feeling this pain led me down the path of self-help and personal growth, which is infused in my practice today.

That’s why I have this business; it’s more than just a therapy service. It’s a service of growth.

I want you guys to be able to help yourself, just like I was able to. I’m just here to help you, guide, and listen along the way. Or as I like to say, help you let it out, so you can figure it out. 

I’m proud to say not only did I grow in dating with confidence, but I also used that confidence to match with, date, and be in a relationship with my true ten. But I had to get there, and it would never have happened with my determination to grow.

I want the same for you, because I know you likely are reading a blog post like this because you want to be your truly best self. Here’s the reality of it all. Once I got clear about exactly what I wanted, (to be successful in dating and not frustrated) I was able to do the actions I needed to make that progress. 

The dating profile that matched me with my true ten

That is why my dating profile checklist is completely free. Because for me and my business I want it to be a tool and a guide to you, not the complete fix. Because my friends, the fix is up to you. 

This is meant to be a resource, just like I would give any client a resource in therapy such as coping skills, or education on their diagnosis, or even a step by step broken down guide to problem solving. This profile that is completely free is just a part of my service.

Look, obviously this, “Resource,” helped me a lot, and I want it to help you in your dating life. I want it to help you go on a whole lot of fun dates with a whole lot of great women. 

And while you are doing that I want you to grow with it. Have fun, go out and talk to girls. Tell them how cute you think they are, or just say wow you are really hot. When you are on a date, go for that kiss no matter what. And whether it is two or three days, or four or five days, call her up and say, “Hey I had a great time the other night, I want to see you again, when are you free?”

Whether you are single and dating, in a relationship, or married. 

I want you to ask yourself, what do you really want?

If you are single and dating, do you want to be able to go out and talk to that girl you think is cute?  Do you want to be able to ask her for her number? I want that for you. That means you are taking the action you want to take, toward your dating life!

Being confident is one of the greatest things you can work on, and give yourself. Come on guys, that is an invaluable gift to give yourself in your dating life, to be able to take the action you really want to, whether that action is going for the kiss, a phone call for a date, or telling that girl you think she is really cute. Take the action you really want, towards the things you really want.

If you’d like to work with me

If you’d like to work with me, I am affiliated with Aurora Counseling Services. 

You can simply visit their website, and ask for Joe, I am there Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday. To visit, click here. 

For my Free Men’s Therapy Group

On Wednesdays at 7pm I host a free Men’s Therapy Group, where we talk about blog posts like this, and am strictly there as a support and guide for you. 

The group is held Every Wednesday at Aurora Counseling Services at 225 Victory BLVD, SI, NY 10301. Simply reach out to me if you have any questions. You are all more than welcome to come and receive any support I can offer. It is absolutely free.  

If you’d like to learn more about my work

In the world of dating and relationships, and how I infuse with personal growth and therapy, you can visit my homepage.

I am available for booking and appointments virtually, you can click here to contact me directly to book a free consultation. Click Here. 

Download the Dating Profile that got me my true ten

If you are single and dating and like to download my dating profile checklist you can click here. 

It is simply the six pictures I used to not just increase my dating life, but to match and date with my true ten.  Click Here to download.

To Subscribe to my newsletter.

f you’d like to sign up for my Men’s Therapy and Coaching and Newsletter, you can click here. 

I send at least one blog post a week about the world of dating, relationships, and personal growth, you can click here to subscribe.