Single and Dating: What’s Your Process?
Write, it Record it, Draft it and Upload it.
I’ll be honest with you guys, starting a business is hard. It involves you learning a whole new set of skills you’ve never even thought about. What makes it really hard is not seeing the progress you want to.
That’s why today’s therapy blog post is called, trust the process (and no I’m not a 76ers fan, but you get the point, IYKYK).
Now for you guys reading this blog post, and navigating the single and dating world, you have figure out your process, practice it, and trust it.
To Keep it Real
For a long time, I had a strict routine when it came to these blog posts, I would handwrite it, draft it, (on a word document) edit it, and post it. My proudest accomplishment is writing 30 blog posts in the month of January, a blog post a day.
What it showed me was I could to the repeated actions day in and day out, and commit to specific actions in a specific time slot. But lately my mind and my heart have been telling me I have to do something different.
I have to do things a differently, because I have more on my plate with this business and these blog posts, than I did when I started this business. I have a YouTube Channel, an Instagram Page, and an email list. And while I wish I didn’t put all of this on my plate, I can’t change that. It is on my plate, and I have to figure out how to make it all work.
My brain and my heart have been telling me to change the process just a little bit (sidenote, have I said process enough yet). But where was this message coming from? Simple, it came from the pain I was feeling trying to fit everything all in. I was being pulled in way too many directions by the phone, the computer, and my goals, not good.
You guys are my audience, and I have to give you good, valuable content, and be at my best. I also have to move this business forward and know I am making progress. That is why my process needed to change. I can’t just ignore YouTube, Instagram or Email Marketing, they’re on the plate.
I have to figure out exactly where each part fits. I have to change my routine.
So far we have write it (handwritten for the blog post), record it (put it on the phone for YouTube), Draft it (type the handwritten blog post and upload it (upload it to YouTube, just not publish yet).
This is the kind of clarity you can get it when you sit there and think about your problems, challenges, and the solutions. That’s my process, for now. Now to you the reader.
If you’re single and dating, What’s Your Process?
If you’re going out on the weekends with your friends, let’s face it, you do want to go out have fun with your friends, and meet some girls, say hello, and participate! Not just stand there on the sideline with the beer in your hand.
Most importantly if you are reading this blog post, what you likely really want to is go there and shoot your shot. That means talking to three, four or five girls when you do go out. Even it it means hearing, “EWWW get out of here.”
**Tip: Girls are rarely, ever that rude. Ask yourselves, when you do go out and talk to girls, have any of them ever really said something along those lines to you, I bet you if that has happened it has happened either rarely, or not at all.
Let me ask you this question. If you consistently went out with your friends, and each time without fail, just said hello, or shot your shot with the girls you really wanted too, would you really be reading a blog post like this? Probably not.
Would you really be this if you went out and said to girls, “You’re Cute, what’s your name.” I really don’t think so. You’d be so naturally happy as a result of making progress, taking action, and figuring things out on your own slowly.
Would you be reading a blog post like this if?
If you went out with a girl you really liked and without even thinking twice called her in a few days and said, “I had a great time the other night, I’d love to see you again, when are you free.?” Again I really don’t think you would, nor would you feel the emotional pain in your dating life, that led you to a website like this.
And lastly, if you always went for that first date kiss, would you this? Again, I really don’t think you would- because confidently taking action breeds happiness, confidence, and success.
Here’s how I work with you.
I’ll help you with your process. From figuring it out to what exactly the steps are, to practicing it, and to making it naturally and confidently your own. So much so it just becomes naturally who you are, what you do, and what you say.
Once you become natural and confident with the actions you want to take in your dating life, you won’t need me. That’s my favorite part of therapy, seeing the progress and going, “What are we doing here, you don’t need to here anymore?”
Together we’ll figure out your process, practice it and own it. I’m just there to guide you, coach you, and give you feedback along the way.
Now it’s time for me to upload that video onto YouTube, which of course will be embedded in this blog post.
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