Three Ways Men in Relationships can Stay Consistent and Make it the Best.
Let’s keep it real.
It’s hard to stay consistent. Whether it is in your fitness goals, going to the gym, saving money, and investing, working at your career or business or having a great, fun, exciting dating and relationship life. If it was so easy, we’d all be on cloud nine, and not be on a website like this. But I do want you to ask yourself, if I was consistent in my health, finances, career, and dating and relationship life, what would it look like?
Would it look like?
Health: Going to the gym every day before or after work.
Career: Doing a little bit it every day in a business you were starting? Studying a little bit every day for a test you need to take six months to a year from now? Or making a list of jobs on Indeed and applying to them every day.
Dating and Relationships: Would it look like, seeing that cute girl at the bar, saying, “You’re cute, what’s your name.? Would it look like no matter what when you came home and saw your girl, the first thing you did was giving her a kiss, and ask her, “How her day is (and then most importantly, shutting up and listening).”
If you are in a relationship. Today’s blog is just for you.
Whether you are married for ten years, or dating for ten months, here are the three key consistent things you can do to make your relationship better in the next thirty days. Just bite the bullet, go for that behavior change, ride the waves of the emotions and urges and soon, you’ll see it pay it off, your girl will start to love you, be sweet and be kind.
Tip Number 1: Wait to call or text
Let me be very clear, that does not mean, ok, now I need to wait five, ten minutes, or 30 minutes or whatever. Men this is your girlfriend or wife, I really hope we are not remotely playing these games. If you are dating a girl, I get it, we’ve all been there and done that, but please, not with your wives or girlfriends.
What I am really saying, just give her the time, and space necessary to miss you, want you, to call or text first. Don’t just call or text her for no reason, or because you miss her, or whatever. Just let her do it first, it is much, much more attractive. Consistent, attractive behavior, makes a great relationship/marriage. Just simply wait. She will be nicer, sweeter. kinder, in love and ready to make plans with you.
If she usually texts you good morning, or whatever, or first, and you haven’t heard from more in a timeframe, you usually do, it’s okay. Don’t react, maybe she is busy, having a bad day, or just in the middle of something. Look if worse comes to worse you can always reach out later that night and say, “Hey babe, I didn’t hear from you all day, just making sure you are ok.”
Disclaimer: Do this in your words not mine.
This I repeat is worse case scenario and very unlikely, more than likely they are just busy, busier than usual, so chill the F out.
Yes, it’s hard to chill the F out, the mind does wonder, I get it, if you are like me, you love your girl, and it would bother the shit out of you.
Tip Number Two: When she is away, on a girls trip, on vacation, or out with her friends, leave her the F alone.
Why? Because she is busy, having fun, and having some girl time. After all guys, we have guy time, whether it is softball, flag football, golf. or the Knick game. We have guy time, so give them girl time, in peace. This is more attractive than you are texting or calling just to say hello, hey, or you need something. Chill the F out and leave them alone.
Yes this is hard, yes our mind wonders, and yes, you may be on the instagram or the snapchat, checking to see if there are stories posted, or guys in the background. But guys, please if this is you, chill the F out. I know it’s hard, but what’s more important? It’s hard to chill out, or to chill out and let her call or text you when she is ready?
I think we both the know the answer!
Tip Number Three: Give your kindness, heart, and a little something when she has a big day.
So our first two tips were more along the lines of inaction, doing nothing, and required the emotions of chilling out, hanging back and riding the emotional wave of fear and uncertainty. This one is about giving to your girl, but in a way that is truly, genuinely and authentically you.
As a matter of fact, when you do these read blog posts, and then soon watch these videos, I do want you to think about how you can feel the information, and apply it to you. Don’t be a robot, and say, “Joey says don’t text.” This information is literally information; it’s up to you to apply it make it truly you.
Now it’s up’ to you to decide an ask yourself…
“If I was going to do something, nice, sweet and simple, for my girl, because she has a big day at work, what would I do
Would you?
Get her a coffee?
Get her a dunkin or starbucks gift card, or order one for here
Her favorite breakfast
A phone call or text just saying good luck, and I’m thinking about.
Why this last tip is imporant?
It show’s you give a shit, and you care, and are not a de-nozzle who just thinks about himself. Look. hopefully, if you are reading this, you are not one of those guys, and chances you totally aren’t. Guys showing you care is simple, easy, it’s easy, it’s doing a small thing like this when you know she has a big day, it’s making plans when she reaches out, and it’s walking in the door asking how her day was and listening.
Citing my work:
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His work paid dividends and my life, and this particular service is just one way I pay it forward as a therapist. I teach what is in his book, get to know you, and help you apply it in your life.
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