How to use Personal Growth in Online Dating?
So it’s not a secret that I write a lot about personal growth as it truly helped me at a point in my life where I was really frustrated. I went to therapy for myself, immersed myself in self-help dating and relationship books, and the best of personal growth, most notably Corey Wayne and his book three percent man.
After three years, not only did I finally master dating and relationships, I decided to keep growing and set my eyes on a business that embodied the same principles of self-help and personal growth with men, that focused on the subject of dating, relationships, and life’s challenges.
I want to take this blog post to show you how when you lean into it and truly live the concept of personal growth you can grow in any way you want, dating, relationships, marriage, or any challenge life throws at you.
First the Quick Fix
In March of 2023, I set out for a quick fix, joined an online dating cohort and wound up with some good information, a lot of dates that went nowhere, and most of all a whole lot of laughs. And while I’m very open about my experience, it’s just not appropriate for this blog.
Nonetheless, we took a steak picture, and the picture is included below What do you see on Photofeeler? We see a 6.7 when edited. I want to make it clear this is a quick fix steak picture. It does not embody the values of personal growth I write about, live, and work with clients on.
The Steak Picture has elements needed such as a suit jacket, steak, good background, and clean table that make it the best possible picture, which I’ll be incorporating later in my steak pictures later below.
Then I decided to lean into my values of Personal Growth
Then In December of 2024, I went out for my friend’s birthday, and was very intentional about taking this picture, and boom, a 7.2.
Guys, I want to make it very clear, if you are scoring a six to seven, or seven to eight on Photofeeler on your pictures, the girl is swiping right! You can read exactly how I nailed that Steak Picture here.
How it played out in my dating life?
I used that steak picture, on a profile that was truly me, with my friends, things I love, and the information I learned and ultimately grew into really enjoying my dating life. Then on a May night I went on a date with a girl who I really liked.
I wanted to see her again but really didn’t know if I would. Then we went out again, and I knew I really liked her. I had to navigate my emotions when dating her, because I really liked her. Fast forward to a year and a half later, she is not just my true ten, she’s my little steak-picture princess.
Now I pay it forward and grow with this business
But enough about me, let’s get back to personal growth. I knew that I wanted to pay that March 2023 quick fix experience forward to guys like me, frustrated in their dating lives and wanting to grow and be their best selves. Now that my dating life was a true ten, I wanted my business life to be that good, it was time to grow again.
So, I decided to take a steak picture…again! And launch a dating and relationship service for guys like me. You can read more about that specific service here.
Now I live that value of personal growth through this business, by showing you the behavior of the steak picture, which is simply just doing it. That value of personal growth comes out in the details.
To live out and really embody personal growth as a therapist, I could not just leave that December 2024 steak picture up and call it a day. I had to show you the reader, the viewer, that you can do anything through personal growth, so it was time to take them again.
Repeating the Skill, The Behavior, of The Steak Picture
In what I’ll refer to my first personal growth steak picture.” It scored a 6.2 on Photofeeler, not bad, one, it’s been a while since I took a steak picture, no suit or sports coat, and no red wine, but definitely room for growth.
Like I said earlier this week, the behavior is the skill, the skill being taking the picture, the growth is in the details, and the improvement you set out for yourself.
Fast forward to last night, I took a second steak picture (repeating the skill/behavior). The one little detail added was wearing a much nicer white shirt. The results, a 6.5! Once again, we see slight improvement in our behavior, (aka the picture), as we are repeating it.
Let’s point out also the only detail I incorporated was really the white shirt, just a much nicer one (thanks babe). Next week I know exactly where I am going, and what I am wearing. Let’s see if the third time is a charm.
Remember guys, the behavior is the skill (whether that behavior is taking the essential pictures for your online dating profile, going to the gym, talking to that cute girl or asking her out).
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